Happiness is a choice and a precious thing to have, if we don’t have happiness then we’re just living in a life to where we’re just trying to get through the day and just having a life to get through the day all the time, isn’t really much of an exciting life to have. We all get unhappy at times it’s just apart of being human, but letting ourselves be unhappy everyday and not trying to find some kind of happiness within the things that we enjoy isn’t good because then we just end up becoming stuck and you never want to be stuck.
The reason i’m talking upon the topic of happiness and unhappiness is because, i’m going through a stage of trying to find happiness within myself again because i’ve realized that I haven’t been all that happy lately and i’m not quite sure why that is, it could be a numerous of different things, i’ve constantly been deep in my emotions and trying to figure them out and by me doing that I find that i’m probably making myself more unhappy with trying to figure them out. I use to be able to make myself happy with the smallest of things and lately that hasn’t been happening, I keep focusing on the the things that i’m not happy about and you should never put your focus on what doesn’t make you happy, even if you’re going through some really difficult times, you should always look for the things that do bring you some kind of happiness even if it’s just for a moment.
We have to remember that we hold our happiness and all of the things that bring us happiness, it doesn’t matter whether we have bad days or hard times happening in our lives, we should always do our best to keep our heads up and focus on what brings us joy and makes us feel good regardless of what is happening. Although that may be easier said then done considering there will be things that do halt us from being happy, we have the choice to either have it continue to stop us from feeling happy or we can just move on and make our own kind of sunshine as that saying goes, the only person that can truly stop us from being happy and doing the best we can each day is ourselves.
They say that we are our longest commitment and that is true, which also means we have the power and choice to choose what we bring into our lives and what we bring in our lives, we have to then decide whether or not it’s good for us and whether it makes us happy or not and that can be a very tough decision because the things that once made us happy can change and believe it or not that can also go for the people in your life, if someone once made you happy, but you find that being around them just isn’t the same anymore then that definitely can be a tough decision to make because, although you know what your doing is gonna be good for you, the people that you choose to either not be around or step away from a bit, it may not make them happy because they will feel because they did so much for you and have always been there for you that they should automatically be apart of your life, which can lead to you being in a tight corner.
Being put in a tight corner can be very overwhelming because now you’ll have to really think about what to keep and what to kinda push away from you that you feel isn’t bringing joy and happiness into your life. Overthinking things though can put you in one of those moods to where you become unhappy especially when your overthinking about how you’re gonna go about everything and I guess for me that’s what has been going on and what’s been keeping me from being happy, because of the fact that i’m constantly thinking about everything too intensively, when I know I don’t need to, but I find that overthinking is one of those habits of mine that I tend to do a lot and I wish I didn’t.
Just like happiness is a choice so is unhappiness, if you continue to let yourself be unhappy then you’re always gonna be unhappy, especially if your making yourself settle for things that you know you don’t need to settle for. You should never let yourself settle for things because your use to them or because you feel that you deserve it, we’re all human and us humans we make a lot of mistakes, some that we don’t acknowledge upfront which then causes us to put them to the side and by us putting it to the side we then store it to be reviewed for later or we try and forget them as if it never happened.
What we don’t realize though or what we always forget is that our minds are very powerful and with us humans we give a lot of energy to our thoughts, however we give power to the thoughts that don’t really bring us any good and so while we may try and forget the thoughts that we don’t want to remember, those thoughts don’t just go away, they stay with you for a long time if you just try and forget them and not confront them. Now even though we may not be able to forget certain things that happen to where they are now filed into our minds that doesn’t mean we can’t forgive the things that happened, although i’m aware that there are a lot of situations that are hard to forgive because it probably made such an impact on your life to where it ended up leaving you with a mental, emotional or just a scar in general, but I feel that forgiving a situation that happened even though you feel it shouldn’t be forgiven can really help you heal.
Forgiving yourself too is super important especially if you feel that you let yourself down in a way or you feel like you put yourself through so much to where it could’ve been avoided or just because you feel as though you need to, what i’m saying is with the way our minds work and the stuff that we think about, our thoughts are the root to happiness and unhappiness, so if our thoughts are filled with negativity and just everything that isn’t good for us then it’s gonna become our reality and you never want to have your reality be filled with negativity, so always keep in mind that whatever you think be it about yourself or if you are just think about whatever just do your best to make sure it’s in good light, another thing that can effect our happiness is the way we choose to live.
If you know the way you’re living isn’t quite making you happy try changing things up a bit, maybe rearrange your room, get rid of things you don’t really need, you know express your feelings, if you’re unable to express it out loud, try expressing it in a different way like writing for example, writing can help you get your emotions out when you’re unable to out loud or if writing isn’t your thing, maybe art is so try painting or drawing, just anything you feel helps you express yourself. When you change certain habits or things in your life, you can help yourself not only heal and feel better but you’ll also bring a little bit of happiness back into your life as well, even when days are tough.
Remember happiness comes from within ones self and the way one is living, so if one of those things are effecting you in anyway and is preventing you from finding happiness maybe try looking from within or around you and see if there’s anything there you might want to change or get rid of so that way you can be happy once again, but also keep in mind that when you’re running low on happiness try and find something to bring a little bit of that happiness back to you, even if it’s not for a long period of time.
When you do feel that happiness coming through be sure to hold on to it and keep it close by just in case you feel you need it again. Anyway that’s all I have for today I hope you’re all able to take something from todays post and for those who are also struggling to find their happiness at the moment, I hope that you’re able to find something that picks up your mood a bit and brings joy to you in some way, but anyway I hope you all have a goodnight/morning and or evening.
All The Love ❤ ❤
~Lexa~
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