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Why Is Simple Complicated!?

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We’ve all been there before, we come across a pathway or just something that should be simple and easy, yet we tend to make what should be easy to us 1000 times harder. Why is that!? why is it that we feel that simple just isn’t enough!? why do we feel the need to over complicate things!? These are the questions that we should ask ourselves a little more often. We as humans always feel as though keeping things simple and just simple in general is really hard to keep up with and the thing is……it’s actually not, we just think that it is, because we always feel the need to rationalize everything that we do, say or feel and that’s something we shouldn’t have to do, we get so caught up trying to figure everything out that we forget that we don’t really have to have everything figured out.

Sure there we’ll be things that we have to really sit down, take in and think about, but not everything has to be in that same format, it’s okay to just not over analyze everything, I mean think about it!? When was the last time you dealt with something to where you probably thought “Oh gosh this is gonna stress me out isn’t it!?” but once you came face to face with it, you then realized that it wasn’t as bad as you thought it was gonna be. Think of it this way: You have a workspace right!? you do what you do and let’s be honest here, we’ve all ended up turning our workspace into our personal, “let me just place this thing right here and i’ll get back to it later” place.

Come the next day we then add something new to that workspace and the process then continues, until we have to use that workspace again and then come to the realization that we can’t, because it is filled with a whole lot of unnecessary things. Here we are now stuck having to clear and put back everything that in all honestly could’ve been avoided if we just put them back in their original place the first time. You see where i’m going with this!? The whole workspace scenario could’ve been so simple, had we not continuously added stuff to our workspace, then we would’ve been able to use it when we needed to use it. We have the choice to make things simple for ourselves, but for some unknown reason we don’t, we just feel complicated it the best thing for us when in all reality it just leaves us stressed out, tired and just not wanting to deal with anything.

If we just learn to work on making things a whole lot more easier for ourselves and a whole lot more simple as well, we would find that we end up feeling a whole lot better and less stressed out all the time. I mean why would you want to be stressed all the time!? I know that stress is something that’s gonna happen at times, but if it’s happening all the time that’s when you should really stop and think about everything you’re doing.

When things start to get just a little too complicated, really ask yourself “is it really complicated or am I just making it really complicated!?” If you find yourself having to really think about it, then it might just be you over complicating it. It’s nothing you can’t fix though, you can always make things simple for yourself, all you gotta do is just really look at everything and decide is this really worth stressing over!? If you find that it’s not then just let it go and move on, however if it’s still bothering you a bit, you can always  write it down, come back to it later and when you do come back to it, look it over and see if it still has an effect on you, if it does try looking into why that is and see if you can break it down to where it becomes easier to work through.

Every complicated issue that we have, most of those issues aren’t as complicated as we make it seem, for some it might be, because everyones different, but that doesn’t mean you can’t work through them and make those issues or whatever it is that is making you stress, a little less stress and what’s complicated, simple. Try to make things less stressful for yourself by making everything you do a little more simpler, it might just work and change your life for the better. Everything can be really simple if we just let it.

Anyway that’s all I have for now, i’m gonna sign off a different way today if you don’t mind and say that I hope you all are enjoying your day and are having a good one, with that I hope you all have a goodnight/morning and or evening 🙂

Inspirational Quotes About Simplicity Robin S. Sharma Quote “Never Overlook The Power Of Simplicity.” (18 – QUOTES FAMOUS

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa~

Clash Between Happiness/Unhappiness

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Happiness is a choice and a precious thing to have, if we don’t have happiness then we’re just living in a life to where we’re just trying to get through the day and just having a life to get through the day all the time, isn’t really much of an exciting life to have. We all get unhappy at times it’s just apart of being human, but letting ourselves be unhappy everyday and not trying to find some kind of happiness within the things that we enjoy isn’t good because then we just end up becoming stuck and you never want to be stuck.

The reason i’m talking upon the topic of happiness and unhappiness is because, i’m going through a stage of trying to find happiness within myself again because i’ve realized that I haven’t been all that happy lately and i’m not quite sure why that is, it could be a numerous of different things, i’ve constantly been deep in my emotions and trying to figure them out and by me doing that I find that i’m probably making myself more unhappy with trying to figure them out. I use to be able to make myself happy with the smallest of things and lately that hasn’t been happening, I keep focusing on the the things that i’m not happy about and you should never put your focus on what doesn’t make you happy, even if you’re going through some really difficult times, you should always look for the things that do bring you some kind of happiness even if it’s just for a moment.

We have to remember that we hold our happiness and all of the things that bring us happiness, it doesn’t matter whether we have bad days or hard times happening in our lives, we should always do our best to keep our heads up and focus on what brings us joy and makes us feel good regardless of what is happening. Although that may be easier said then done considering there will be things that do halt us from being happy, we have the choice to either have it continue to stop us from feeling happy or we can just move on and make our own kind of sunshine as that saying goes, the only person that can truly stop us from being happy and doing the best we can each day is ourselves.

They say that we are our longest commitment and that is true, which also means we have the power and choice to choose what we bring into our lives and what we bring in our lives, we have to then decide whether or not it’s good for us and whether it makes us happy or not and that can be a very tough decision because the things that once made us happy can change and believe it or not that can also go for the people in your life, if someone once made you happy, but you find that being around them just isn’t the same anymore then that definitely can be a tough decision to make because, although you know what your doing is gonna be good for you, the people that you choose to either not be around or step away from a bit, it may not make them happy because they will feel because they did so much for you and have always been there for you that they should automatically be apart of your life, which can lead to you being in a tight corner.

Being put in a tight corner can be very overwhelming because now you’ll have to really think about what to keep and what to kinda push away from you that you feel isn’t bringing joy and happiness into your life. Overthinking things though can put you in one of those moods to where you become unhappy especially when your overthinking about how you’re gonna go about everything and I guess for me that’s what has been going on and what’s been keeping me from being happy, because of the fact that i’m constantly  thinking about everything too intensively, when I know I don’t need to, but I find that overthinking is one of those habits of mine that I tend to do a lot and I wish I didn’t.

Just like happiness is a choice so is unhappiness, if you continue to let yourself be unhappy then you’re always gonna be unhappy, especially if your making yourself settle for things that you know you don’t need to settle for. You should never let yourself settle for things because your use to them or because you feel that you deserve it, we’re all human and us humans we make a lot of mistakes, some that we don’t acknowledge upfront which then causes us to put them to the side and by us putting it to the side we then store it to be reviewed for later or we try and forget them as if it never happened.

What we don’t realize though or what we always forget is that our minds are very powerful and with us humans we give a lot of energy to our thoughts, however we give power to the thoughts that don’t really bring us any good and so while we may try and forget the thoughts that we don’t want to remember, those thoughts don’t just go away, they stay with you for a long time if you just try and forget them and not confront them. Now even though we may not be able to forget certain things that happen to where they are now filed into our minds that doesn’t mean we can’t forgive the things that happened, although i’m aware that there are a lot of situations that are hard to forgive because it probably made such an impact on your life to where it ended up leaving you with a mental, emotional or just a scar in general, but I feel that forgiving a situation that happened even though you feel it shouldn’t be forgiven can really help you heal.

Forgiving yourself too is super important especially if you feel that you let yourself down in a way or you feel like you put yourself through so much to where it could’ve been avoided or just because you feel as though you need to, what i’m saying is with the way our minds work and the stuff that we think about, our thoughts are the root to happiness and unhappiness, so if our thoughts are filled with negativity and just everything that isn’t good for us then it’s gonna become our reality and you never want to have your reality be filled with negativity, so always keep in mind that whatever you think be it about yourself or if you are just think about whatever just do your best to make sure it’s in good light, another thing that can effect our happiness is the way we choose to live.

If you know the way you’re living isn’t quite making you happy try changing things up a bit, maybe rearrange your room, get rid of things you don’t really need, you know express your feelings, if you’re unable to express it out loud, try expressing it in a different way like writing for example, writing can help you get your emotions out when you’re unable to out loud or if writing isn’t your thing, maybe art is so try painting or drawing, just anything you feel helps you express yourself. When you change certain habits or things in your life, you can help yourself not only heal and feel better but you’ll also bring a little bit of happiness back into your life as well, even when days are tough.

Remember happiness comes from within ones self and the way one is living, so if one of those things are effecting you in anyway and is preventing you from finding happiness maybe try looking from within or around you and see if there’s anything there you might want to change or get rid of so that way you can be happy once again, but also keep in mind that when you’re running low on happiness try and find something to bring a little bit of that happiness back to you, even if it’s not for a long period of time.

When you do feel that happiness coming through be sure to hold on to it and keep it close by just in case you feel you need it again. Anyway that’s all I have for today I hope you’re all able to take something from todays post and for those who are also struggling to find their happiness at the moment, I hope that you’re able to find something that picks up your mood a bit and brings joy to you in some way, but anyway I hope you all have a goodnight/morning and or evening.

 

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa~

Pep Talks With Coffee And Me……Plus Learning To Spend A Little Time With Yourself…….

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Have you ever given yourself a pep talk before you did anything first!? If so let me know how that goes for you and if it makes you feel any better, does it give you more of a confidence boost just share your thoughts, I would really like to know. The reason why i’m asking is because today I had to give myself a pep talk for the very first time in a long time, now a lot of you who read my blog posts probably know that I don’t leave my house much due to the way I am, but lately i’ve been slowly progressing and getting out more, mainly with just going and sitting in my backyard. I’ve actually been sitting in my backyard a lot more recently, I use to go like once or twice, but lately i’ve been going in my backyard a lot more than I normally would, i’m finding myself to really come to enjoy sitting in the back and just kinda taking everything in and sitting with my thoughts.

Anyway back to pep talking, so like I just expressed normally I just sit in my backyard but today was different, why was it different you may or may not ask and wonder!? Well today was different because for the first time in a very long time, I decided to take myself out for coffee, because I really wanted it, now i’m sure all of you are thinking “Why would you take yourself out for coffee, don’t you have a coffee maker at home!? (maybe you’re not thinking this I don’t know) but to answer your question if you have thought it…….yes I do have a coffee maker at home, but I was really feeling for french vanilla coffee today and we don’t have french vanilla, plus I kinda wanted to walk at the same time so I thought “You know what!? i’m gonna go walk down to Dunkin’ Donuts and get me a french vanilla coffee” if some of you are wonder why french vanilla, well that’s because french vanilla is my all time favorite coffee, I love it!! I have other favorites, but yeah I won’t bore you with that lol……..anyway……..So yeah I got dressed and took my dog for a walk first before I went to get coffee (btw I got my coffee a little late it was like 11am when I went so yeah, i’m sure it doesn’t make a difference though)

After I walked my dog, I gave her some water and some food and this is where the adventure starts for me……..okay so before I left the house again, I had to make sure I had everything that I needed, I always do that before I go anywhere or leave somewhere just to make sure you know!?…………So once I checked my bag to see if I had everything, I then headed on down to my destination and it was alright not too bad, every step I took, I gave myself a little boost of confidence saying “See this ain’t so bad” and also “you’re doing great” a little way of walking I then thought to myself, do I have my headphones!? cause I kinda wanted to listen to some music and so I stopped to check my bag to see and what a surprise………I didn’t have them…….thought to myself “YEP forgot my headphones”

Now what i’m about to say is a thing that actually came out of my mouth, I then said this “looks like it’s just me and thoughts then….great” not kidding that’s actually what I said and you can’t see me right now, but i’m laughing to myself because I just remembered I said that…….moving on………so i’m walking to get my coffee, observing everything, taking in the scenery. Half way of walking I start to contemplate in my mind, don’t worry I was just contemplating what it was I wanted to order, I knew I wanted coffee, but as you know, there’s a lot of coffee to chose from, but I was just thinking if I wanted a hot coffee or a cold one, reason being was because it was sorta hot out today and I wasn’t sure if I wanted a hot beverage on a hot day, I mean who wants that right!? (if you’re the type of person who does get hot beverages on a hot day, then power to you no judgement here)

So long story short I get to my destination I even said it as if I was a GPS when I walked close to it……..i’m not kidding (I know i’m a nerd, but I embrace it) anyway so I get to Dunkin’ Donuts and when I was walking in I saw this girl with a dog outside, I said hi when I walked in, the dog was cute it was a pug just in case you were wondering, so I go inside and there were a few people in front of me and while they were ordering, I of course start scanning the menu and then I realized while in line…….I forgot my glasses………i’m not really the best at seeing from afar…….soooo I had to just squint my eyes to see what I wanted, now my eye sight isn’t that bad or anything, I just can’t see that well from afar mainly with words……anyway I ordered my stuff and then went back home, after a little while of eating my stuff, I went to the backyard again and sat there for a good while and was just you know taking stuff in and everything.

Now what I realized today was, it’s been a good while since I hung out with myself, I mean normally i’m with myself in room all the time and you would think that it wouldn’t be weird because i’m always to myself, but when you take yourself out be it going to get coffee or just even going for a small walk by yourself, it’s a different feeling compared to just being with yourself in your home you know!? Going to get coffee by myself…….I mean it wasn’t weird, but it also was at the same time, I don’t know if that makes sense, but yeah it was a bit odd, because I don’t normally take myself out. Now this may sound like i’m going off topic but hear me out, some of you know that I loved where I use to live, it was one of my favorite places ever and there was a time where I did go on walks by myself, whether it was to meet up with my friend or getting something from the store and it was like I enjoyed it there more then I did going to get coffee today.

Now i’m not saying that it was terrible going for a walk and treating myself to some coffee outside my home, i’m just saying it was a bit weird for me because i’m not use to taking myself out and just treating myself to things, sometimes that even happens when i’m with people and they tell me to get something that’s on the expensive side of town because they know I don’t treat myself but 1. I’m not really into getting myself super expensive things especially if I know i’m not really gonna use it or if i’m just not feeling it, in order for me to get something that’s a bit more expensive compared to what I’d normally spend money on, I would have to really like it or really want it and 2. The things i’d normally get for myself don’t really cost that much and that’s because again i’m not into super expensive things, I prefer to just get stuff that i’m gonna use and that I know will bring me more joy for example: journals, band/graphic tees, books, I love Funko pops as well certain ones, stuff like that, you know things that I feel would mean more to me.

Now there are a few things that i’ve bought myself before that was on the expensive side of town and some I use and others I don’t use that much which is why I don’t buy things nowadays, but my point is I don’t really treat myself to stuff that often only when I really want it or if i’m interested it in and it’s not just things i’m talking about here, I don’t treat myself to much in general. It’s pretty rare for me to just take myself out, enjoy the day and spend time with myself outside of home, in all honestly I actually prefer to be home instead of going out, if I go out I like to be with someone I just feel it’s more fun that way, but i’m also realizing that it’s okay to treat yourself once in a while and just be with yourself even if you’re just going for a walk. Sometimes you need that alone time to gather your thoughts, really get to know yourself as a person more and just see how you feel sitting or spending time with yourself, sure if you’re not use to getting yourself out and treating yourself to not just things, but also a good time, it’s gonna feel weird and you’ll most likely feel very uncomfortable in your own skin, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t at least give it a try, do go for that walk alone and do sit with yourself.

Pushing yourself to kinda get out a bit more or treating yourself to things, can help you really get to know yourself on a deeper level to what you’re use to. You might find a lot of new things out about yourself that not even you knew and you may think “we’ll i’m with myself 24/7 what wouldn’t I know everything about myself!?” There might be a lot of things that you don’t realize about yourself actually…….I found out today after a very long time, that when I push myself and help myself do things that i’m not use to, I actually feel a little better, I won’t lie to you……I was actually super nervous leaving the house, I mean I walked my dog first and that’s not something to be nervous about of course, but it was knowing once I finished walking my dog, I would be walking alone to get coffee and it may sound dumb and not that big of a deal, but when you’re use to something and then you find yourself pushing past the things you’re use to……it can be kinda scary and it’ll make you anxious, but once you set your mind to it, you don’t try and second guess yourself and you just kinda go for it, you realize it’s not so bad.

It’ll be weird yeah, but if you just kinda give yourself that pep talk to boost your confidence a bit so you don’t try and psych yourself out, then you’ll find yourself just going with it pretty much. So if you think about maybe going on that walk alone, maybe treating yourself to some lunch or something, give it a try, see if it’s something that you might enjoy and if you do, see if you want to do it again. Don’t let your mind keep you from wanting to do certain things and don’t be afraid to spend a little time with yourself. You don’t even have to do anything big, just sitting alone in the backyard with you and your thoughts will do, once you find yourself doing that and you start to feel comfortable enough in your own skin and mind, try going for a good walk by yourself and just keep working towards certain things until you feel really confident within yourself to want to do a bit more and all that.

Work at your own pace and don’t worry about everyone else, just do things when you feel you’re ready for them. You’ll know you’re ready when something inside you kinda gives you that push and you find yourself just kinda doing things that you normally wouldn’t do, everything will just come to you and you won’t know why, but you’ll find yourself just going with it and when that happens, you’ll see that you’ve reached a certain level on your confidence bar which is good and it’s also something to be proud of yourself for, because it means you’re growing and coming into your own little by little.

Annnnd that is all from me for today, I don’t really have much to say, buuut I hope you were able to take something from this and that it helped some of you in some way, anyway I hope you all have a goodnight/morning and or evening 🙂

 

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa~

Feeling Like You’re Not Making Progress (Inspired Blog Post)

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So I was watching one of my favorite Youtuber’s earlier and the video that I watched was titled “When You’re Not Making Progress” the topic was discussed by a British Youtuber named Lucy Moon, she talks about a lot of different things on her channel, surrounded by life, she has podcast and this really cool monthly series called The Sunday Social (I don’t always watch them on Sundays I pick and choose when I want to watch it haha……ehm…..anyway) her channel is pretty much on the lifestyle sort of town at least I would say, she runs her channel a specific way that I enjoy, but anyway back to the topic of this blog post…….So I was watching her video and she was talking about how when it comes to making progress in our life be it within ourselves, relationships, the things we do and just life in general, no matter how hard we work sometimes for some people we don’t always end up where we think we should be.

She also talked about how it can be very frustrating to know that you’re putting in the hard work with everything that you’re doing and you still end up not really moving in the direction that you want to move in and having that feeling of “well i’m doing everything here and yet I still feel like i’m getting nowhere” that kind of feeling can really put a damper on you and make you unmotivated to want to do anything. She also talked about what she learned saying, even when it gets to that point, you should still keep pushing and work hard because even though you may not be at that point in your life that you want to be, you should still keep going because eventually all that hard work will pay off in the end, so that’s what I want to talk about.

I want to put my thoughts in to what she was saying in her video because when I watched it, everything she was saying, I too had those feelings before and i’m still going through those feeling in a way sometimes, but i’m also learning that if you want to get somewhere, hard work, determination and consistency (is the key word for me) is what you have to keep your focus on if you want to move forward, as well as small steps too. She then compared her life and work schedule with all of her friends, saying how they’re doing so much more than what she’s doing and said how everyone knows that comparing yourself to others isn’t the best thing to do, we all do it and it’s just one of those habits that we find hard to get rid of, because most times we’re surrounded by people who have already achieved so much and here we are just kinda on the same boat, floating by wishing we were in their shoes and that kind of thing can lead to discouragement for some people.

We start to think to ourselves “oh well, since i’m not where everyone else is in my life, is it even worth continuing doing what i’m doing!?” and the answer to that is yes, do continue, because yeah sure it’s hard and it’s super super frustrating to put so much hard work, heart and soul into something and yet still feel like no matter how much hard work you put in to everything, it’s like you still don’t move and you know you’re working really hard, but sometimes things just don’t happen to us as quickly as others or as we would like it too, but even when that happens that still shouldn’t discourage you from continuing building what it is you have already built for yourself.

We get so caught up in other people lives that, we start to have this mindset because someone else did it, we did it……..but they’re moving forward and we’re in the same position and with still being where we are, we tend to kick ourselves down and wonder why we can’t have that kind of life and the thing is, we can…….we’re just too afraid to and so instead of working toward giving ourselves the kind of life we want to have, we just kinda start to envy other people for having the exact life we dream of having and that’s not good, because we shouldn’t ever compare our lives to someone else’s. Everyone has a story to them that we don’t know and everyone has a battle they go through that we don’t see or even acknowledge. My point though is I went off topic…….I meant to talk about making progress no matter how slow you go, but it just ended up turning into when you’re not making progress so we’re just gonna roll with it okay, yeah, cool….awesome!!

So let’s talk feeling like you’re not making progress especially when everyone around you is in a world where everything they do gets them to a place so much faster compared to where it gets us……..we all know that progress is all about doing things in the pace you’re able to handle, hence why it’s called progress, it’s all about how much and how well you’re doing that will determine how everything else is gonna go in your life, so if you do things slowly it might go a little bit slow, but if you’re the kind of person to get things done when they need to be done then, you’re not really gonna have a problem with getting to the places that you want to get to. Some of us are turtles (me) and others are bunnies (my boyfriend) just giving you some examples on what i’m talking about.

Anyway you shouldn’t think of progress as a race is what i’m getting at, everyone has their own pace that they go at, some are slower while others are a bit faster and that’s okay, you don’t need to try and out run everyone, you just do things your way and at your own pace. Progress is all about building, it takes time to progress in something, first comes an idea of some sort, then there’s a goal you’re trying to reach and then from there you keep working toward building to get to that goal and the more you keep on going the quicker you get there, it may not be right away, but you’ll always come close to reaching it.

Progress like I said takes time, sure we may all want things to happen to us right away, but if we’re being real we know that it’s not, it doesn’t mean we won’t ever get there it just means that we’ll have to go through the dirt a bit to get there. I’m not saying you have to throw yourself through the dirt fully (okay maybe sometimes) but you’ll have to get a little messy and you’ll find that getting a little messy is sometimes worth it………..unless you just bought yourself some new clothes and you’re having the best day ever and then out of nowhere something happens to where you get your clothes dirty and your now standing there shocked, angry and ready to scream your heart out because you just got your new clothes dirty…….but besides that getting messy is worth it sometimes.

It’s okay if you start things off a bit late or slower than others when trying to make progress in reaching your goals, keep in mind that in order for others to have reached their goals it too took them some time, but they still got there and you will too. Don’t sweat on how long it’s taking you to reach your goal, it may not happen for you right then and there, but know that you’ll get there soon enough, just keep on going and keep on working hard and know that eventually your time will come, the more progress you make from constantly going, the closer and sooner you’ll get to where you want to be. Keep your head up, mind focused and keep on filling that progress bar of yours, you’ll be happy that you did and remember don’t worry about what everyone else is doing because it only matters what you’re doing and how proud you’ll make yourself in the end.

That is all from me for now, I hope this helps some of you and you’re able to take something from this, if you’re interested in wanting to watch the video I was talking about you can watch it here: When You’re Not Making Progress (Lucy Moon) It’s a really good video and me watching it helped me feel better about myself and it helped me just kinda accept that it doesn’t matter how slow you go, as long as you just keep going and i’m doing my best to remind myself everyday of that. Maybe you’ll also learn something from this video like I did and who knows you might actually find yourself someone new to watch, I would recommend watching her other videos too because I think she’s great, I love watching her videos because 1. Their cozy, 2. You can sometimes learn from her videos and 3. She’s just great, I know I said that already, but it’s true……but yeah I hope that you enjoy the video. If you don’t that’s fine, it doesn’t have to be for everyone, but I just wanted to share this with you guys just in case you want to check it out, if you do like Lucy Moon and content videos show her some love and support, i’m sure she’ll appreciate it, but anyway I hope you’re all having a lovely day and if not well I hope you find something to make your day better 🙂 (Originally Written Aug 13th) 

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All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa~