Bonding & Just Being Together….

You know what I love!? The show that is The Masked Singer, now before I continue, I just want to say that this post was going to be all about The Masked Singer and how great it is in my words, but then I started writing and I felt it change into a different topic as I continued soo it’s not just going to be about the Masked Singer…..it might end up being a little deeper than that….maybe, we’ll see where it goes…..back to part of the Masked Singer, like I said I love that show, I can’t even tell you how much I love it!

It’s such a cool and interesting concept to sometimes wrap your head around, but you love anyway! It’s obviously a singing show, but with a more unexpected twist to it and it’s just beautiful!! I always watch the show with my mom, we both enjoy it and I won’t watch it without her! I do that with everyone though, if I start a show with someone or I know there’s a specific movie that I like, but is also a favorite to someone close to me, it’s not just a regular movie or show anymore, it turns into a tradition shared with someone you love and means a lot to you!

For example featuring a confession time:

I won’t watch the movie Grease or watch the show Jane The Virgin without my guy/partner I can’t do it! Especially Grease like even clips of Grease moments or hearing some of the songs is a no go, well I can hear the songs now a bit…..I have two of them on both my Spotify and regular phone music, but when I’m missing him loads…..it’s really hard to hear them! I have the movie and I love the movie, it’s one of my favorites…..but I won’t watch it without him at all, because it’s our movie so yeah lol!

Anytime I think of watching something that was shared with somebody, I won’t watch it and the same goes with specific songs too…..if a song reminds me of someone, it can be hard to listen to at times, not always, but there are moments that I’ve had where a song that I love or enjoy has played and I quickly change it because it reminded me of someone! There are songs that I do let play even if it reminds me of a specific person, it really depends though on the song and what memory comes with it!

It might be a weird thing to not want to watch or listen to something because someone specific isn’t around to watch it with you or because you get a moment in time that plays out when hearing a specific song that has you thinking of that person, but I don’t see it like that! The way I see it, if you are watching something with someone else, listening to a song that gives you those fond memories or just doing something in general with that person…..you are sharing something and being open and inviting to want to have that experience with just that person and no one else…..it’s a bonding experience as well as being/spending together and enjoying this special thing at the same time!

We can enjoy these things by ourselves of course, but there’s just something about having that special bond with someone and both of you just happy to share those moments together! That’s a different experience, different feeling in itself and again it may be weird to some people and it might get seen as corny, don’t ask me why I chose to say that word, it was the first one that came to mind…but I don’t care because I love those moments where it’s shared with someone close to you and you see the other person enjoying it the same way you are!

My favorite is when you’re showing someone something they haven’t watched/listened to or maybe haven’t experienced yet and as they are learning about it for the first time, you’re there looking for their reaction to see if they’re liking it or not (hopefully I used all that correct) I don’t know how to explain it, but those first time moments are one of the best, because you’re getting the most honest reactions that you’re only going to see once! 9/10 most of the things that you like, isn’t always going to be something someone else likes…..

When that happens you have to learn to accept people not having the same interest as you, cause in reality it’s going to happen…..however there will be times where you both are showing interests into something and you find out that you both either really like it or you hate it! One of you may even enjoy it more while the other isn’t for it as much!

It’s the process of the thing, trial and error, but at the same time you learn something new with it and you grow to know someone as well with what they like and don’t like! It’s nothing personal if someone doesn’t enjoy the same things you do same goes vice versa, at the end of the day, it’s all about being together and being open to giving these moments a try even if it’s not your best cup of joe or tea! What’s important is the experience as well as bonding and enjoying each other’s company!

All The Love ❤ ❤

Lexa

Dear Little Me…..(Updated)

It’s been a while hasn’t it, if only you knew all things we have been through…..I mean seeing that you are apart of me, you probably already know huh!? I’ll be honest I wasn’t really expecting to write to you, it was only after that I read a bit of the first I guess you can call letter post that I wrote to you back in 2018 that I felt like I wanted to update you on a few things that we’ve managed to do…..I’m writing this a bit on the late side on the 15th of September nearly midnight, but not necessarily midnight it’s still around 11:30pm as I’m writing this now, I might just continue this post in the morning so I could really tell you everything that I want you to know….I’ll catch you up on what those things are soon, a part of me might keep the rest as a surprised though, see you in a couple of hours!

Good Morning me, well younger me…..it’s a little early, around 8:40am almost 9am, I don’t know if you remember us always getting up earlier than we needed to back then, there were moments when we got up a bit late as well! Sometimes we’d get up at almost 10am and if we got up at 11am we were upset the whole day…..I’m glad that I changed our sleep schedule all those times ago ha! I don’t know where to start with what’s been going on….We’ve been on quite the journey you and I, a lot of stresses, emotions both good and bad, we had some loses in our lives as well, that meant a lot to us….but on a good note, we did find someone that loves us for our weirdness as well as everything else believe it our not lol…..there’s a lot of things that’s happened since the last time I spoke to you!

We’ve been through some storms, but the one thing though that I feel you’ll really like is that…..we got through them and most of them we’re really hard, because they pushed us to really grow ourselves more and change as well, in the last letter I wrote you…..I felt like I was not doing you proud, that I had failed you as an older version of me and I never knew how to really express that in the best of ways, I only knew how to say sorry and feel bad about everything we were going through at the time…..I wanted you to be happy and I didn’t really give you that chance to be happy then….it took a long while, but I just want you to know that we’re doing good now, where we were then, we aren’t there anymore!

We managed to find our voice, now I won’t say we found it fully fully, there’s still some things that we both are still working out and trying to understand better, which is normal, because not everyone has figured everything out yet, but we have learned a lot and I can honestly say that we are becoming better versions of ourselves more and more each day! Don’t get me wrong we still have our moments where we aren’t always happy and feeling our best, but to how we used to handle those days to how we handle them now…..we’re doing pretty alright for ourselves, our emotions don’t constantly get at us the way they used to, we’ve learned to control them a lot better and not be so hard on ourselves….I mean we’re still hard on ourselves at times, but I think that’s never going to go away really, but that’s okay because it helps us to want to be better!

We’ve grown on a personal level, we’re still the same, but there our some new differences within ourselves that we’ve gained with our personality, for example….we’ve gotten a bit more sarcastic lately, we say what’s on our mind a lot more these days, a bit quickly too, might I add and we’ve gotten better at not taking up things that we know we don’t need in a negative sense….I guess you can say we’ve gotten a bit tougher and stronger since the last time, but I think part of those part of me comes from you if that makes sense, especially all the sassy parts that I wouldn’t have ever thought to come out!! All our fears that we used to worry ourselves about, we have moments where they pop up, but you’ll be happy to know that instead of always wanting to avoid them and run away, we try and face them the best we can…..we come way out of our comfort zone, well we’re nearing the surface at least, we don’t swim the best, but we do our best to get to where we want to be!

Like I said we’re still learning as we go along, but that’s only part of the journey we’re on…..it’s just the beginning and we’re just getting started, but we’re flying little me, just like you always wanted and I promise that I’m going to keep doing my best to make you proud to be me older, because I just want you to be happy and I want you to know that the adventures you go, as new and hard as they may be at times and you may feel like you’re not getting where you need to, but know that you’re always going to get where you need even when you get lost a bit, sometime you have to get a little lost before you’re found! We’re always going to be okay, I know that because I got you and I know that when I’m lost, you’ll found a way to point me to where you feel it’s best to go so I know to keep going, because together is where the magic starts to happen!

All the feelings of being scared, but wanting to still give it a shot anyway, taking those risks, I never thought we’d get to that point, but I got to say that, doing those things, makes me happy, I still get nervous and scared, but I hope that you feel happy that we’re finally doing them…..there’s still some stuff that I know I want to tell you, but I know know how to express them properly just yet, so I will leave them for another time, the moment I find those words and I’m able to piece them all together you’ll know…..I just wanted to tell you that we’re okay and that we’re a little bit more happier than we were before…..I’ll see you soon!

All The Love ❤ ❤

Lexa

Up And Early….With Some Thoughts!

Good Morning! Happy Saturday hope you’re all having a very nice and relaxing weekend or just a nice weekend, if you’re up and running around today! I got up a bit early today for no reason, but then went back to sleep for a while, originally when I got up it was about 7:48am I believe, I had a feeling it was early the first time I got up, I just didn’t know it was that early and when I went back to sleep and got up again, it was about 8:26am! I tend to get up around 8am anyway so that’s my usual time of getting myself up, if my body wakes me up early….I’ll get up about 7am and will stay up during that time if I feel I can’t get back to sleep or I’m just feeling like an early bird!

but if I’m just getting up early for nothing, I’ll randomly find myself up between the times of 2am, 3am, 4am, 5am & 6am, lately though the earliest of early of me getting up will be about like maybe 5am or 6am tops the other times are only when I have too much in my head and I have trouble sleeping…..the latest that I tend to get up or prefer to get up is 9am…..sometimes on rare occasions 10am, but that’s only when I’m really really tired and haven’t slept in a while, it’s not my preferred time to get up, but when it happens I know it’s because I barely slept so I try not to beat myself up when I do get up at that time!

I don’t really know why I’m writing about this so if you’re confused well so am I, sometimes I just write whatever feels like coming out and I try not to question it, but I don’t have a clue on why I just explained all of that to you guys…..don’t mind me! Hopefully everyone’s morning has gone well, I know for some of you out there, it’s probably the afternoon or getting close to the evening time, It’s 10am now as I’m continuing writing this post….when I got up this early morning I sat outside for a bit and was taking a lot of things in, for one….you know we’ve arrived in September cause it’s getting more chilly out, although it tends to be pretty cold in the early mornings anyway, but even when it’d not super early and the suns out beaming all over you, you tend to notice how different the air is and how cooler it’s gotten compared to the other days!

You know it’s September when you start to see more Crows flying by, before you’d only see them here and there, but the amount of crows I’ve been seeing since September started just by sitting outside is a good amount to count, it’s quite mad! I know I recently talked about doing a lot of thinking about things, which I am, I’ve not stopped thinking recently, there’s a lot going on personally, some a little too personal to share on here, although sometimes I want to, but I don’t for the simple fact of, it’s not everyone’s business, there are things you keep to yourself and there are things you only share with close people…..

Sometimes though, you don’t even want to share it with the people around you either, because you feel like it will only burden them and it’s best to not say anything and deal with it yourself! However it can get a lot to handle and sometimes you don’t know what to do, but you keep trying anyway, even when you know you should probably stop…..and you want to stop, but then just when you think that everything is good…..it comes right back and you’re there having to deal with it again! You keep strong though and you push through!

but life will keep pushing you until you do something and that could either be approaching the situation and facing the music or you leave it alone and sometimes life pushes you, for you to leave it alone or for you to finally say “THAT’S IT, NO MORE” I guess it all comes back to choosing your battles knowing when to fight or to just surrender, lay down the sword and walk away…..sometimes that’s hard because it could mean leaving something that was once important to you behind…..but at some point you have to realize that you can’t fight every battle and you can’t be the one to fix everything! You can be there for people and you help them in the best way possible, but if they refuse to listen and just continuously bring nothing, but drama after drama, you have to think about what’s best for you and your health!

Ask yourself if you want to keep fighting this fight!? Don’t get me wrong some things are definitely worth fight for, like love, happiness and whatever else you feel is worth it! That being said…..there are things that don’t need to always be fought over and if you find yourself stuck in the same old storm and fighting the same battle constantly, eventually you’re not going to have enough energy left to fight or just use for yourself and that’s where you’ll need to worry because without energy, you’ve already lost the battle….so save your energy and use it wisely on what to use it on!

All The Love ❤ ❤

Lexa

Plans & Decisions…

I’ve never been one for planning you know, which you probably do because I’ve mentioned it a few times on here, me and plans….don’t mix, however I’ve come to a point in my life where, I’m finding myself trying to plan for things which is usually not my department, but if the time has come for me to really sit and plan things properly then I’m going to do it! I’m going to put myself in an uncomfortable situation and face it the best way I can, scared and full of nerves combined!

Today has been a bit of a rough day for me, I’ll admit, I woke up with soooo many thoughts in my head and trying to sort them is completely new to me, I don’t normally sort my thoughts out well and so trying to do that today has got my head just full of aches lol…..but it’s okay because I know that there’s something that is very important I want to do and if I end up losing a little bit of sleep from it or feel myself getting slightly anxious on, I’m alright with that! Plans aren’t my normal cup of tea, but I’ve been trying to embrace it a little better instead of getting intimidated by them,

Plans are important they can help layout things so you don’t feel all over the place! Normally I like going with things naturally, but I’ve also been learning that sometimes you need to plan for things in order to work them out, if you just let things always go as they are, whatever is most important to you can get away from you and if that’s something you don’t want then you have to really work at them and take those steps to having them come to fruition and making them happen…..I’m always being told that life is short and you want to make sure you’re always giving attention to the things that matter most even if it seems hard, it can seem like you won’t get there, but if you want it enough and you believe in it enough….you already know that it can get there, you just have to take those steps to get them there!

Now with the things that I’m planning, there’s a few decisions that I’ve come to realize I need to face and deal with, even though some of the stuff may not be my favorite to want to deal with…..it’s up to me to take that breath, put on a brave face and do it anyway…..with planning you also have to make decisions tough or not, because that’s the only way for you to grow better and to experience things without all the limits of it all it all, you have to allow yourself to fly even if you are bat scared shit of it and yes I’m saying it just like that because it’s how I’m feeling it at the moment….if we continue to always keep ourselves on the ground, as safe as it may be sometimes you have to also fly or float otherwise you’ll always be there wishing you could soar that blue sky!

I recently went on a trip as you may know if you read that post and I was really nervous when I was waiting to go on the plane, but once I got on the plane…..I don’t know I was very happy, I smiled to myself knowing I did something that scared me and even when I was on the vacation I was on…..I was ready to go back on the plane……it just felt good and I really enjoyed myself knowing that I was ahead somewhere that I hadn’t been yet and that’s what I want to continue, I want to keep discovering, exploring and going on adventures…..but also I want to share that experience and so if I need to plan in order to do that, like I said…..I will!

The upcoming plan idea is to finally be able to see my love again and figure out how we can be together permanently, we both have wanted that for a good now sooo, I’m just hoping that it all goes well for us this time, which we’ll make sure it does!

Planning By A Non Planner (Personal Thoughts) Ep. 32 Daydreamer's Podcast

Hiya everyone, hope you've been having a good week so far! In today's episode, I talk about some of my own personal thoughts that I've been feeling today and about planning….something I see as intimidating normally, but I've been trying to embrace it a little better this time around and really do my best with it all! 

All The Love ❤ ❤

Lexa

Honestly….I Want To See You Be Brave (Title May Change)

There comes a moment, well I guess you can say there comes a good amount of moments in life where you have to make some really hard decisions and sometimes those decisions aren’t always the easiest, most times you’ll find that not a lot of people agree with the decisions you make, but whether they agree with them or not, it’s up us to decide what we feel works best for us and if it’s also healthy for us as well! What I mean by that is if you find that you’re in a situation where everyday it’s always issue after issue and no matter how much you try to make it better, it never feels like it gets anywhere, that’s where the really big decision comes in…..you have to ask yourself is this worth the time and energy am I sacrificing too much of my happiness trying to make everyone else happy!?

Sometimes it’s difficult because you feel like with certain situations you don’t have a choice, especially when say it’s family or really close friends or just anyone you feel a great connection with! If you are the kind of person that always puts everyone else’s needs before their own this can be especially difficult and a bit of a battle to get yourself out of, but once you do get out of it, you’ll start to find yourself getting more and more better and you’ll also start to become happier because you’re not having to always please people, you might have moments where you feel slightly guilty, but that’s only due to the fact that you’re used to helping so many people out without a single thought about yourself so it’ll feel a little weird at first of course!

However you have to know when to say no and that it’s okay to say no, as hard as it is, it’s important for your wellbeing, if you’re constantly agreeing to everything that someone says or always saying yes when really you mean no, you don’t give yourself that proper attention that is needed and when you know you have no energy left, yet you still try and give everyone what their asking you for…..it’s just going to be this endless cycle only you’ll be the one without energy while others knowing they have their own energy, continue to take all of yours!

You never want to allow yourself to enter that cycle, but then you ask yourself, how do you know you are in that situation!? Sometimes it all goes based off feeling, so if someone askes you for something or to do something, whatever the question or situation is and inside you feel like it’s not right or maybe you just don’t want to do it in that moment, yet you do it anyway because you’re being asked that’s the first sign of it’s okay to say no when you feel it to be no…..as for situations alone, you have to know which ones are worth putting yourself into and which ones are best to stay out of, it’s not always an easy thing to do, but for the best shield for yourself,

Don’t know how else to state it….it’s important to be aware of and if people choose to scold you for wanting to stay away from all the drama and not wanting to be around them because it’s never a good moment or there’s always something then just a genuine let’s spend time together or conversate and all that jazz, then those are the people you want to keep at a distance, if they can’t respect that then you’re best to just keep to yourself and look towards filling your circle with better surrounding people that you know will keep your energy high and not the other way around, the people who really care will always support you, even if they maybe don’t agree, a good support system will always encourage you to just go out there and do your best and will always want to see you happy!

I express a little more on this topic in my latest podcast episode, it’s a bit lengthy, but I felt it was important and wanted to share on it, if you would like to have a listen, check it out:

Wind Of Change….(Personal Thoughts) Ep. 30 Daydreamer's Podcast

Happy Wednesday! Hope you're enjoying the day…we've reached episode 30….wow! In today's episode, we go a bit personal with it, I had a lot of thoughts that I wanted to share with this episode and it's pretty much based on a situation that I'm dealing with currently! I don't normally share on personal issues, but I felt I wanted and needed to say some stuff and so this episode might be a little heavy topic wise, but I try to keep it a little light as well, without all the extra details so it's not all that bad, just some thoughts…  

All The Love ❤ ❤

Lexa

Acceptance Of The Old Or Of The New!? (July 6, 2019)

I’ll be honest, this title is stumping me a little on how i’m going to write about this, even though I titled it this way, there’s always something that is going to be a little of your comfort level, but sometimes you have to try even if you aren’t sure on how it’ll go or sound in this case.

Sometime we accept certain things that we shouldn’t and push away things that can be too much to take in because it evolves changing the things we are already used to, even if those things may be good for us in the long run.

In this case we talk on the topic of change and new beginnings for something better and different…….the word different is something a lot of us don’t like really like to embrace, because it secretly has the word change, hidden within it which makes us want to run and hide from it.

Not everyone likes change as we all know, even if it’s the good kind, we prefer comfort and not having to change anything around us, we see it as why change something when there’s nothing wrong with it!? However even though it may not look like it from the surface, doesn’t mean that there’s nothing wrong hidden deep down inside…….

The insane part about it is that most of the time we know that we’ve grown or are growing out of the comfort of what we know, yet we choose to stay and continue living in the mentally discomfort of our own ways and or bad habits and lifestyle we try to keep around, knowing that it’s harmful to the growth of ourselves and personality, but we accept it thinking that we need to, when in reality it’s not an obligation to do so……we forget that as human beings we’re meant to evolve and change every now and again.

Even if we have things to us that stay the same, it doesn’t mean we fully are the same person, we change a little everyday and our perspectives on things change as well just like everything else to us…..

We may not like it, but it’s something that we have to let happen otherwise, we’re just going to be miserable and that is nothing, but the truth, the more we hold back on something that is natural to our human nature, the more we’ll continue to regret and become unhappy and we all know that regret is the one thing that we don’t want eating us alive mentally, because even when you think you’ve gotten over something, you’ll find that you really haven’t, it’s always there hidden in your mind even if it doesn’t seem like it.

Accepting something because we think we have to or because we’re used to it, will only make us angry deep under the surface and the more we continue adding fuel to it, the more we’ll start to resent and break and when we start to break everything around us starts collapsing……

Worrying about how people will feel, the way everything will go or even about other peoples lives, only adds stress to the person worrying no one else, it might worry others (people you’re close to) but it won’t do as much damage to them then it will to you and that’s because you’re the one feeling it the most which is why you stress out more, when in reality the only thing that is needed for you to focus on, is yourself in regards to the kind of change you want for you and what you’re willing to accept in your life.

If you accept what is already given, not just with other people, but with yourself and the way things are going in your life depending on whether you’re okay with it or not will depend on the way it makes you feel, if you feel good about it than, there’s no need to worry, but if deep down you’re not willing to accept it than, that should say something clearly……

Although we surround ourselves with different people and different things, we are the ones that have to be satisfied with what we bring and allow in our lives otherwise who’s the happy one!? If it’s not us we’ve done things wrong, we shouldn’t allow nor accept something just because we’re used to it or we feel we have to, not from other people, not even from our scared self, acceptance of the old shouldn’t go clashing with things that are new…..

If anything the old and new should come together in some way, because they’re just as tied together as anything else, we don’t have to get rid of what we already have, but we don’t have to just accept it either, keep what you have, but try to embrace what you can have to,

Even if you are unsure of it, you don’t want to be stuck with a routine that is draining and unfulfilling, accepting where you are and what is expected will only drive you up the walls, instead of being afraid and anxious of a new and most likely better change, try being anxious, but excited for it!!

I mean let’s face it no one is ever calm with new things and if you are, well than I don’t know how that’s possible, but I guess it can happen…….but new things should always bring you a little excitement even when it’s terrifying, I mean if you’re not scared a little, do you even really care!? Be anxious and scared, but be excited a little too, because acceptance of the old should never keep you from accepting what is new…..

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa~

Why Is Simple Complicated!?

We’ve all been there before, we come across a pathway or just something that should be simple and easy, yet we tend to make what should be easy to us 1000 times harder. Why is that!? why is it that we feel that simple just isn’t enough!? why do we feel the need to over complicate things!? These are the questions that we should ask ourselves a little more often. We as humans always feel as though keeping things simple and just simple in general is really hard to keep up with and the thing is……it’s actually not, we just think that it is, because we always feel the need to rationalize everything that we do, say or feel and that’s something we shouldn’t have to do, we get so caught up trying to figure everything out that we forget that we don’t really have to have everything figured out.

Sure there we’ll be things that we have to really sit down, take in and think about, but not everything has to be in that same format, it’s okay to just not over analyze everything, I mean think about it!? When was the last time you dealt with something to where you probably thought “Oh gosh this is gonna stress me out isn’t it!?” but once you came face to face with it, you then realized that it wasn’t as bad as you thought it was gonna be. Think of it this way: You have a workspace right!? you do what you do and let’s be honest here, we’ve all ended up turning our workspace into our personal, “let me just place this thing right here and i’ll get back to it later” place.

Come the next day we then add something new to that workspace and the process then continues, until we have to use that workspace again and then come to the realization that we can’t, because it is filled with a whole lot of unnecessary things. Here we are now stuck having to clear and put back everything that in all honestly could’ve been avoided if we just put them back in their original place the first time. You see where i’m going with this!? The whole workspace scenario could’ve been so simple, had we not continuously added stuff to our workspace, then we would’ve been able to use it when we needed to use it. We have the choice to make things simple for ourselves, but for some unknown reason we don’t, we just feel complicated it the best thing for us when in all reality it just leaves us stressed out, tired and just not wanting to deal with anything.

If we just learn to work on making things a whole lot more easier for ourselves and a whole lot more simple as well, we would find that we end up feeling a whole lot better and less stressed out all the time. I mean why would you want to be stressed all the time!? I know that stress is something that’s gonna happen at times, but if it’s happening all the time that’s when you should really stop and think about everything you’re doing.

When things start to get just a little too complicated, really ask yourself “is it really complicated or am I just making it really complicated!?” If you find yourself having to really think about it, then it might just be you over complicating it. It’s nothing you can’t fix though, you can always make things simple for yourself, all you gotta do is just really look at everything and decide is this really worth stressing over!? If you find that it’s not then just let it go and move on, however if it’s still bothering you a bit, you can always  write it down, come back to it later and when you do come back to it, look it over and see if it still has an effect on you, if it does try looking into why that is and see if you can break it down to where it becomes easier to work through.

Every complicated issue that we have, most of those issues aren’t as complicated as we make it seem, for some it might be, because everyones different, but that doesn’t mean you can’t work through them and make those issues or whatever it is that is making you stress, a little less stress and what’s complicated, simple. Try to make things less stressful for yourself by making everything you do a little more simpler, it might just work and change your life for the better. Everything can be really simple if we just let it.

Anyway that’s all I have for now, i’m gonna sign off a different way today if you don’t mind and say that I hope you all are enjoying your day and are having a good one, with that I hope you all have a goodnight/morning and or evening 🙂

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa~

Clash Between Happiness/Unhappiness

Happiness is a choice and a precious thing to have, if we don’t have happiness then we’re just living in a life to where we’re just trying to get through the day and just having a life to get through the day all the time, isn’t really much of an exciting life to have. We all get unhappy at times it’s just apart of being human, but letting ourselves be unhappy everyday and not trying to find some kind of happiness within the things that we enjoy isn’t good because then we just end up becoming stuck and you never want to be stuck.

The reason i’m talking upon the topic of happiness and unhappiness is because, i’m going through a stage of trying to find happiness within myself again because i’ve realized that I haven’t been all that happy lately and i’m not quite sure why that is, it could be a numerous of different things, i’ve constantly been deep in my emotions and trying to figure them out and by me doing that I find that i’m probably making myself more unhappy with trying to figure them out. I use to be able to make myself happy with the smallest of things and lately that hasn’t been happening, I keep focusing on the the things that i’m not happy about and you should never put your focus on what doesn’t make you happy, even if you’re going through some really difficult times, you should always look for the things that do bring you some kind of happiness even if it’s just for a moment.

We have to remember that we hold our happiness and all of the things that bring us happiness, it doesn’t matter whether we have bad days or hard times happening in our lives, we should always do our best to keep our heads up and focus on what brings us joy and makes us feel good regardless of what is happening. Although that may be easier said then done considering there will be things that do halt us from being happy, we have the choice to either have it continue to stop us from feeling happy or we can just move on and make our own kind of sunshine as that saying goes, the only person that can truly stop us from being happy and doing the best we can each day is ourselves.

They say that we are our longest commitment and that is true, which also means we have the power and choice to choose what we bring into our lives and what we bring in our lives, we have to then decide whether or not it’s good for us and whether it makes us happy or not and that can be a very tough decision because the things that once made us happy can change and believe it or not that can also go for the people in your life, if someone once made you happy, but you find that being around them just isn’t the same anymore then that definitely can be a tough decision to make because, although you know what your doing is gonna be good for you, the people that you choose to either not be around or step away from a bit, it may not make them happy because they will feel because they did so much for you and have always been there for you that they should automatically be apart of your life, which can lead to you being in a tight corner.

Being put in a tight corner can be very overwhelming because now you’ll have to really think about what to keep and what to kinda push away from you that you feel isn’t bringing joy and happiness into your life. Overthinking things though can put you in one of those moods to where you become unhappy especially when your overthinking about how you’re gonna go about everything and I guess for me that’s what has been going on and what’s been keeping me from being happy, because of the fact that i’m constantly  thinking about everything too intensively, when I know I don’t need to, but I find that overthinking is one of those habits of mine that I tend to do a lot and I wish I didn’t.

Just like happiness is a choice so is unhappiness, if you continue to let yourself be unhappy then you’re always gonna be unhappy, especially if your making yourself settle for things that you know you don’t need to settle for. You should never let yourself settle for things because your use to them or because you feel that you deserve it, we’re all human and us humans we make a lot of mistakes, some that we don’t acknowledge upfront which then causes us to put them to the side and by us putting it to the side we then store it to be reviewed for later or we try and forget them as if it never happened.

What we don’t realize though or what we always forget is that our minds are very powerful and with us humans we give a lot of energy to our thoughts, however we give power to the thoughts that don’t really bring us any good and so while we may try and forget the thoughts that we don’t want to remember, those thoughts don’t just go away, they stay with you for a long time if you just try and forget them and not confront them. Now even though we may not be able to forget certain things that happen to where they are now filed into our minds that doesn’t mean we can’t forgive the things that happened, although i’m aware that there are a lot of situations that are hard to forgive because it probably made such an impact on your life to where it ended up leaving you with a mental, emotional or just a scar in general, but I feel that forgiving a situation that happened even though you feel it shouldn’t be forgiven can really help you heal.

Forgiving yourself too is super important especially if you feel that you let yourself down in a way or you feel like you put yourself through so much to where it could’ve been avoided or just because you feel as though you need to, what i’m saying is with the way our minds work and the stuff that we think about, our thoughts are the root to happiness and unhappiness, so if our thoughts are filled with negativity and just everything that isn’t good for us then it’s gonna become our reality and you never want to have your reality be filled with negativity, so always keep in mind that whatever you think be it about yourself or if you are just think about whatever just do your best to make sure it’s in good light, another thing that can effect our happiness is the way we choose to live.

If you know the way you’re living isn’t quite making you happy try changing things up a bit, maybe rearrange your room, get rid of things you don’t really need, you know express your feelings, if you’re unable to express it out loud, try expressing it in a different way like writing for example, writing can help you get your emotions out when you’re unable to out loud or if writing isn’t your thing, maybe art is so try painting or drawing, just anything you feel helps you express yourself. When you change certain habits or things in your life, you can help yourself not only heal and feel better but you’ll also bring a little bit of happiness back into your life as well, even when days are tough.

Remember happiness comes from within ones self and the way one is living, so if one of those things are effecting you in anyway and is preventing you from finding happiness maybe try looking from within or around you and see if there’s anything there you might want to change or get rid of so that way you can be happy once again, but also keep in mind that when you’re running low on happiness try and find something to bring a little bit of that happiness back to you, even if it’s not for a long period of time.

When you do feel that happiness coming through be sure to hold on to it and keep it close by just in case you feel you need it again. Anyway that’s all I have for today I hope you’re all able to take something from todays post and for those who are also struggling to find their happiness at the moment, I hope that you’re able to find something that picks up your mood a bit and brings joy to you in some way, but anyway I hope you all have a goodnight/morning and or evening.

 

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa~