Boundaries are the thing we all want to be able to be good at, but don’t always quite know how to set the right way. Sometimes we don’t even realize we need to be implementing one, we get so used to having all these people and energies around us that we just become immune to it for a while, until it comes time to really start setting them in motion and usually it happens when we are at our most stressful moments or until it becomes something you just can’t ignore anymore.

That being said, most of us will feel bad for needing or feeling like we need to put someone or something in it’s place so that we as human beings feel more at ease and at peace within ourselves to be able to function and focus better, but it’s really important and essential to do so, without boundaries set in place, we literally give ourselves away freely without others learning and knowing that personal space exist and if we don’t voice it ahead of time, eventually it will catch up to you and trust me, you’ll start to missing having your own thoughts, feelings, private moments and you’ll just miss being around yourself everyday without the headaches and without all the noise that tries to push through.

It’s okay to say to someone, “hey there’s something I need to get off my chest, I feel I need to set some boundaries with you” 9/10 people may feel a little confused about the matter, because to them they may feel like they haven’t done anything wrong or may not have even realized that they were invading your personal space in the first place.

Sometimes us “Highly sensitive people” the ones that tend to feel everything deeply are the ones that have a hard time setting boundaries as we don’t really want to hurt anyones feelings, but one thing we have to learn is that, we can’t always worry about how other people are going to feel especially when all we’re doing is trying to protect our energy and our sense of peace and harmony, sometimes we have to say “I don’t care” just so that we are able to relax better, it doesn’t help if you’re always respecting other peoples space and being mindful of their thoughts and feelings, but you’re not getting the same in return, it’s just not fair on you as a person to always be putting others first.

If other people can’t understand or respect you when you tell them, you need time to yourself or that you just need them to give you some breathing room then they aren’t worth your time nor energy, you have to make it a priority to make sure you’re always right within yourself and that you are not only protecting your own energy, but taking proper care of yourself too. Now sometimes, it may just be a specific day where you just don’t want to be bothered like that and that’s alright, you get your good days and you get your days where you feel quite down or the energy is not there.

I guess it comes down to just knowing what you need or what kind of energies you want around if you even want to be around people at all. I think it’s harder to set boundaries for friends and family honestly as you’re around them more often then random people, some of them might get it and understand and some might actually get offended or feel some kind of way if you’re just randomly telling them to leave you alone and give you space and if they are not used to it, they may have trouble following through on what you just told them, but you have to be clear and honest about your feelings and also know that it’s okay to set boundaries when you feel you need it.

Also try not to give yourself a hard time for not being able to set boundaries right away, sometimes it takes practice and it will also take discipline, it can get frustrating, but just like there’s an art to life, there’s a special art to setting those boundaries, one of them involves not caring so much and by that I mean, don’t feel bad for wanting to protect yourself even if it involves people you know. We always hold others so closely and are always trying to consider their feelings and although that’s great, you have to also consider your own feelings so it’s one of those things where “you shouldn’t take it personal” and that goes for ourselves also, don’t take it personal and don’t keep thinking about it.

Which I know is easier said then done, however as human beings, we need to tell our brain to stop holding on to so much stuff, as it’s just a pain to have to deal with, sometimes I feel we need to set boundaries to our own self on what is allowed and what is not. Just try not to stress yourself out, if you feel you need to put your foot down and set some boundaries then you do that and don’t worry about whose feelings you’ll hurt, just be honest and tell them what’s allowed and what’s not and if you know they aren’t good for you or the energies around you aren’t good, put your hands up, surrender, say it’s not my problem and let it go, don’t pay it no mind and don’t give it any energy.

Nothing More, nothing less and stand on businness and stand strong on your intended boundaries, those that matter don’t mind and those that mind don’t matter. This is something that I needed to hear and if anyone out there needs to hear it as well, then I hope I helped in some way.

All The Love
Lexa 💚🍵