A Process Not Too Far From Progress…..

If you were given the chance to wake up in a different world, would you!? I would just to see what it’s like for a moment…..everything is so out of wack these days, you think on whether everything will get better or if it’s just going to keep going the way it is!? Surely there has to be some kind of change, a more positive one at that right!? Sometimes you don’t know where you stand at times, whether you’re going in the right direction or if you’re just being a big ole” bobble head of a person on a certain day.

Yeah okay that last sentence was probably a weird one, but seriously it’s so hard to know how everything goes, where everything is supposed to go and if you’re able to handle it all…..most things just continue to come out of nowhere to the point where, you’re thinking whether or not you should keep a look out for something just in case something else pops up, but I guess it wouldn’t be life if those things didn’t happen right!?

It’s tough, you want to be able to keep your head up when things get a little too chaotic, but sometimes it always feels as though gravity just wants your head to be down all the time, that’s how strong negative energy is, no matter how strong you try your hardest to be, there’s always going to be a moment where you can’t help, but want to break down and just not be bothered and most people will tell you that it’s going to be okay and that things will get better, which isn’t wrong to say because it’s true,

However, sometimes it’s okay if things aren’t okay, it’s harder to try and feel positive when you’re feeling really down and out, then it is to actually let yourself feel the things your feeling. We all try and put brave faces on and seem as though we are bullet proof and that we can withstand anything, although that is true, we wouldn’t be able to do all of that, without feeling the unwanted and negative feelings that we feel. Without harsh wind storms, we wouldn’t have nice breezy days, without hurricanes, we wouldn’t be able to enjoy the calmness that the water brings, that might’ve rhymed, I don’t know, but what i’m trying to get at is, with bad comes good and with good comes bad, there’s a balance to it and with that balance,

We just need to know how to get it right or find a way to make it better somehow, sometimes it takes time and sometimes we’re able to pick it up pretty darn well, but if somethings is not okay, that’s okay and if something is okay, that’s okay!! We shouldn’t always have to feel as though we need to keep positive and not worry, it’s important to not do that of course especially if it’s excessive (is that the word!? Probably)

If you’re worrying and stressing it’s alright, it means you really care about something, if you didn’t care you wouldn’t feel those things, but just keep tabs on how much you let the meter go over…..I know it’s not always easy to keep things leveled, be it with emotions, hard days, thoughts, you name it!!

Sometimes those things do have a way at getting the better of us, but if we can handle it, we will and if not it doesn’t mean we won’t and can’t, life is hard and oh so very stressful most of the time, but life can also be pretty easy if we let it, will we!? Most likely not, but really it’s the way we choose to look at everything that will determine how well we get it right.

Just so everyone’s clear here, don’t worry i’m still learning this myself, it’s a process for everyone, but it’s a process that isn’t too far from progress…..

All The Love <3<3

~Lexa

A Message Yet To Be Sent……

Hey…..okay so I wasn’t expecting to be writing this, but here I am doing it, I knew I shouldn’t have checked, but I did, so now i’m writing this as an alternative to actually messaging you, in case you don’t answer, because who knows if you will answer, I mean who knows if you’ll even want to read this…….the first thing that I want to say, is how are you, I hope you’re doing well and that things have been going well for you, I haven’t forgotten about you nor have I stopped thinking of you either, I never stop thinking about you, i’ll be honest I don’t even know what exactly to say here, never has it been this way where we couldn’t just speak to each other………..

I just messaged you, I haven’t actually sent it yet though, I don’t know whether to do so or not, I might, might not, apart of me wants to, but don’t want there not to be an answer if she does, if you get it, then you’ll know I sent it, if not, it’s because i’m still thinking about it. I’m not going to make a big deal though, I just wanted you to know that. I don’t really know what else to say here, I guess it’s become easier not hearing from you, not that I don’t always hope to hear from you, I know we did talk a few days ago which was surprising, but also it was good hearing from you,

I was hoping I would, I don’t know if we’re still up for talking properly, I would like to, but it’s up to you if you still want to……either way I just hope you’re well and are okay……well anyway, i’ll stop writing now, you stay safe and be careful always and just know that I love you, always will!!

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa

Rain With A Little Self Care…..(Oct 16, 2019)

I think i’m just going to free write today if that’s okay, what I mean by free write is i’m just going to allow myself to write whatever ends up wanting to be written and not over think it. Let’s start with the day, it was a pretty cloudy and gloomy day today, right now as i’m writing this it’s pretty much pouring outside as we speak, well as I write and you read more like.

Today started out a bit spacey in terms of me feeling spacey, i’m sure you got that though, I wasn’t feeling super spaced out, i’ve just been in this zone, it’s hard to describe……it was a mixture of alright and not alright, I just keep having this feeling of wonder where it’s slightly stressing, but i’m trying to not over stress about it, i’ve been trying to write a post all day, but it’s taken me until i’ve gotten home to actually properly sit and write without being distracted, I find I write better when it’s quiet, plus the quiet, helps me stay focus, I was listening to music earlier and although I was writing something

It was taking me quite some time and I still haven’t finished it, this is actually a new post i’m writing, so it’s completely different to what I started writing earlier on to the self care part of the day, so I went for my very first facial today, i’ll admit I was feeling a bit weird and maybe a tiny bit nervous, I know there’s no need to be nervous when your getting a facial,

I was okay when I was having to go in for the session, although I was still feeling weird about it, i’ve never gotten a facial before so I didn’t know what to expect from it, plus i’ve stated before how great I am with self care and when I say great I mean, it’s a new world for me, because I don’t do it often so there’s that, but once I got in and the facial was happening,

I actually found it quite nice and I felt it to be pretty easy relaxing, which is another thing that i’m really great at, hoping you’re picking up on the sarcasm that i’m throwing down there, no but seriously, it was pretty nice, the lady doing my facial was pretty nice too, not sure if you’re meant to talk when you’re getting a facial, but I did, luckily the lady was fine with it and we had a nice chat during the whole thing, I learned some stuff and got to know her just a little, it was good, it made the facial experience worth it i’d say, it was only a 60 min facial, you know you’d think that’d be pretty long,

60 mins, but man did it go by quickly I didn’t even realize she was finished, I didn’t really want to leave afterwards, but I guess with the conversation and the relaxing atmosphere along with the facial session as a whole, I guess the time would by smoothly when you think about it, but yeah it was pretty good, I got some stuff for my face to be able to maintain and keep my skin clean and fresh. I had to get the lady (Leah was her name, in case you’re wondering hopefully i’m okay to say that, it should be fine though)

To write down small steps to follow with the products so I would be able to follow along okay, since it was my first time being given a proper skin care kit that works best with my skin, she explained everything well with what order to use them in and how to properly apply them, but because I know the way I am, when it comes to how to do things when it’s something new to me, I asked her to write it down so I wouldn’t somehow mess it up or something and she did which was helpful so i’ve got that info down,

but yeah first time facial was pretty alright, I was feeling a certain way earlier and after getting that done, my mood shifted into a better one I guess you can say, not that I was having a horrible day, but I felt a lot different afterwards which was good, although the weather wasn’t the greatest to probably get a facial, i’m glad I still went and got one.

So that was my day, well now yesterday it’s midnight now as i’m finishing up this post, I know I probably should’ve gotten it done earlier, but anyway i’m going to head on to sleep now, pretty tired, I hope you all had a good day yesterday and I hope you have another good one today.

I hope you’re all doing well too, alright you all have a goodnight and I shall see you all in my next post, before I go though real quick…..

Have any of you ever gotten a facial before and if so…….what was your experience with it like!?

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa

Just Needing To Chat….

Today has been quite a day, it’s been so much of a day that i’m literally mentally exhausted because of it, I don’t even know how this post is going to come out to be honest, if it ends up being full of rambles, sorry in advance, I just don’t know how to really handle everything today, my emotions are off the charts, one minute i’m okay and the next I just want to cry and get angry all at the same time, I mainly want to cry and that’s me being honest here…..i’m in this mode where I want to talk to someone, but I don’t at the same time, I just really don’t know what to do with myself.

Chaos keeps breaking out around me, because no one knows how to handle things simply without blowing up and getting mad at one other, people think they know what’s right and what’s wrong and love being the one to say I told you so, everyone just loves saying that. Sometimes it doesn’t even need to be said they just think they got it right from start to finish, when they don’t even know, they don’t flipping know whatsoever on what’s going on and why you feel the way you feel, they just like assuming the reason.

Sorry…..i’m sorry, i’m not trying to dump all my issues and problems on here, there’s just so much in my head that I don’t know how to get it out, i’ve been in thought mode all day and i’ve been trying so hard to keep everything together and act as though everything’s fine, but when it comes to the way my emotions work, I can’t pretend, because it’s written all over my face, as always……and I hate it because then people want to know why you’re feeling down and out and although you appreciate the concern,

Sometimes you just have days where you just want to deal with it, as it’s coming without the whole “let’s talk about it” start up conversation and okay yes, part of you wants to sit there and talk about it all, but at the same time you would rather just keep it all to yourself and not be bothered about it, but you also know that’s not healthy and so you express it a little and what happens, judgement, there’s no just listening going on at all.

What you get back is things you really don’t need nor want, plus if you did want a little pick me up kind of chat, it’s not in an understanding way, it’s not in a supportive way or a warm approach, it’s just people wanting to add what they think you need to hear and although that’s all fine and dandy at times and yes tough love is helpful to most……not everyone wants that.

Some people just want someone to listen, to be there and let them know things are going to be okay and give them the opposite of what tough love is and maybe that’s the…..I don’t even know what to call it, the softer approach kind of way, where you sit with someone and you listen to them and be their emotional support when they’re needing it. It’s like you know when you’re watching a show or movie and you have those families or just people in general who are really understanding and when they talk to you,

It’s in a comforting kind of way without the intensity involved, you know what I mean, does that make sense!? I know what I mean and what i’m trying to say, I just don’t know how to put it all in the correct kind of order, but hopefully you get what i’m saying……it’s just everything is so hard and trying to work it all out in a way that you’re able to keep it simple,

Is like a task and a half to complete and it doesn’t help when you know you’re having an extra amount of a really tough day and you yourself are trying so hard to get through it, yet it becomes even more harder, because the level is always on intense mode for some flipping reason and you try to keep it at lower level, but no matter how hard you try and express what you’re wanting, it still ends up being unclear and it just ends up going back to fully on mode and that’s the mode you’re trying to say you don’t want.

It’s like I don’t know, I feel like i’m the only one whose mode is not turned up to the max, everyone’s so intense and angry, while i’m reserved and emotional, why is that!? Every time I observe it, I still can’t figure it out and it should feel good to be the odd ball out because you have your own way of doing things, but lately as much as I would hate to admit it, I find myself wanting to just fit in somewhere, but I can never bring myself to play along in a crowd full of madness if that makes sense!?

I’m a calm person who is as quiet as a mouse and I do my very best to keep away from things that are a little too much to handle and the only time I get explosive is when my emotions find a way to get to me and when that happens I have no control of it. I get angry, but my anger is more out of frustration then actually being mad, it’s rare when i’m angry, I don’t like to get angry, but i’m just having a really hard time dealing with everything.

Today is one of those days where it’s just so much that all I want to do is cry and cry and cry, become frustrated on the fact that I am crying and then cry a little more, until I somehow convince myself that it’ll be fine and that we’re going to get through it somehow and try and be okay again……

It’s so much I tell you, but i’m doing everything I can to push through it, I can’t talk about it, talk about it, the way I would like to, but this, this post right here, expressing myself to you guys, whether you’re listening or not, it helps in a weird way and it’s odd, because even though I was feeling the way I was today, I had in my mind that I wanted to write about it, literally all I wanted was me and either my blog or my journal today, nothing else.

Why does this work better I don’t know, but it does and i’m thankful and grateful for this blog and for those who I have talked to and even the people who take the time to read all of my posts, be it pretty short or very long.

When I started this blog it was to be able to have a place to go when I need my headspace cleared and for a long time, I abandoned that whole concept because I didn’t think it was interesting and I thought no would want to read that from me even though it was the way I was feeling, but the more I write I find it’s becoming a little more personal each time and i’ll admit it’s scary, but it gives me a place to be more myself in way, without the pressure of having to figure everything out, I mean I still feel pressure, because i’m constantly putting pressure on myself because I feel I need to always be doing something and worry about where i’m going and it’s really stressful.

But for the most part, writing helps me to express and allows me to not be afraid to express, although i’ve been working on being more vocal, I still find this to be a little bit easier then actually talking about my feelings.

I’ve been scared to express in this kind of way because I didn’t want to bring all of this here, but i’m letting myself be a bit more personal, but also choosing what I want to say and what I would rather keep to myself. It’s still a work in progress, but if you read any of it, just know i’m very appreciative on the fact that you guys are interested in reading this side, just as much as if i’m writing about something that makes me happy or when I find something interesting and want to share, you have no idea on how much that means, so from the bottom of my heart, thank you so very much,

for enjoying my blog and coming back to read my posts, i’ve had this blog for about 1 year and 3 months today actually and I do see your support with it, i’ve just been so wrapped up that I also miss it at times, but i’m going to do my best to work at that and thank you guys a little more often for being here. With that all said, I think it’s a good time to stop writing because this is almost starting to look like a chapter in a book, I hope you all are having a better day then me and are doing well and I hope you all have a goodnight.

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa

Ramble Of Thoughts…..

When we step back and look at all that we’ve done, what do we hope to see when looking!? Are we looking at something great or something lack luster to what we hoped we’d see!? Pondering and analyzing everything that’s lend up to where we are, we sometimes don’t know how exactly to feel with everything at hand. Have we worked things out in the best way possible or did we just give up on something way too soon then we should’ve!?

We ask ourselves to where we are actually heading and why does it take so long to get there, when you look back and observe everything, all these emotions and thoughts just pour out in front of you and sometimes you can’t stop it from happening, you try and try not to let it overwhelm you and you do your best to ignore it all together, but because we’re human,

We find masking our emotions and turning off all our feelings and thoughts isn’t as easy nor simple as it seems and sometimes you wish you could just take all those feelings, emotions, thoughts and everything in between and just put them in a box, leave a few holes in it, because we aren’t that careless of discarding them without letting them breathe a little and just ship them away, far away, so we wouldn’t have to feel them so hard.

You think by doing that, things would be okay, but then you come to the realization that bits and pieces of all your emotions, thoughts and feelings were left behind and you’re right back at square one. Now you’re not just feeling one emotion, but you’ve got everything so mixed up and jumbled together that you don’t even know what to do with them anymore, you know you can’t just throw them away and forget about them forever, there’s always something that’ll have you be reminded of them……

Although you wish you could just un-feel everything and just have one emotion on auto-pilot, you know that that’s not happening, you’re pretty much saying you’d rather feel empty by doing that and you think “yeah” that doesn’t sound like a bad idea right!? Sure maybe, but it doesn’t mean that what’s happened and what’s happening is going to go away for good.

You maybe not feel, feel, but you still will if that makes any sense…..and that’ll be because there’s always something that’ll remind you, if the impact was big enough, the only difference is you’ll be without emotions dealing with it, which may be a little worst because you’ve prevented yourself from feeling to where now you feel nothing at all, numbing and suppressing everything you’ve ever felt, plus the feelings and emotions to come……

With everything just racing around and slowing down before you, all at the same time, it’s hard to really know how to feel, at first you feel everything and then you only feel a little, later everything decides to rush on back to you out of nowhere and then you find a different emotion appears.

It’s just all confusing, you’re feeling all these different things, that you don’t know how to deal, one minute you’re happy, the next sad, later you find yourself getting frustrated and angry, but then you’ll have a moment thinking to yourself on whether you should’ve even felt that way in the first place…..not only is your brain confused, but so is every part of you inside.

How we deal with all these mixture of emotions at times is beyond me, when they’re running separately, it’s manageable, because you know what you’re dealing with, so you’re able to find a way to work with them,

But when you’re having to deal with them all at once, you find yourself scrabbling to find the best way to keep them under control which just calls for a mess to be made and in those moments, you kinda just want to turn them off and keep yourself on auto pilot, especially when they come in heavy. That being said, as much as we’d like to, we can’t just turn off those emotions, the closest to not worrying about them would be to numb them all together, now what is numbing!? To numb is to not feel,

You numb to keep any kind of pain away that you may be feeling, to keep from dealing with it, but just because you aren’t feeling anything, doesn’t mean you don’t feel anything, that probably sounds confusing i’m sure…. when you don’t feel, you do in a way, it’s just a little different, your purposely trying not to feel and when you don’t feel, you can’t react.

At least not in a proper way, you still feel it though, no matter what you think and tell yourself, it’s just suppressed deep down. When you numb away everything and shut off every emotion and thought possible, you’re just pretending it doesn’t exist and that makes you feel more without having to actually feel and what I mean with that is, just because everything else is closed off, doesn’t take away the fact that, you’re still holding on to an emotion, it’s just being kept on one level, you can’t react if you don’t know how and so you keep yourself in a neutral state to help you function.

Which is understandable, we all know that sometimes it gets too much and if helps to numb an emotion for a period of time then why not!? but to turn it off completely that’s something you never want to do, you want to be able to feel something and if you can’t, it kinda beats the whole purpose of being human doesn’t it!?!

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa

Just Chatting….(Oct 5, 2019)

Hey everyone, if that’s not the most standard way of a greeting you’ve ever heard, I don’t know what it right now, but since we said it, might as well continue going with it right!? I hope you’ve all been having a good weekend and doing well, I know I haven’t written in a few days, i’ve already checked that thought off my list so you guys don’t have to……I really don’t know what to talk about if i’m being completely honest here, I thought i’d just chat away if you don’t mind, sometimes you just need to do that, you know!?

This weeks been quite something I gotta say and I don’t know in what way to put it and when I say that, I mean more on whether it was in a good way or not….I guess it was okay, but at the same time, not, I really don’t know how to feel about these past few days, today’s been a mixture of feelings, it was alright, but not, like I really don’t know how to feel today, if I can say anything about today though it’s that i’ve been in thought mode,

but if i’m being honest, i’ve been that way these past few days, okay maybe a week or two, see, i’m everywhere I tell you!! I’ve been doing my best to keep focus and occupied and it’s worked, it’s only when i’ve stopped and i’m not focusing on something to keep my head from spiraling to where I start to go on a journey let’s just say, there’s a lot of things i’m feeling that it’s hard to pick one out of the bunch, I hate when that happens…..

Also I had this very weird dream last night, yeah I know random, but it’s true, I don’t even know where to begin to describe it, I only remember bits and pieces of it….let’s see, the setting was an odd setting, I think I was brought somewhere as like a helper of some sort I really don’t know, it seemed as though I was in some kind of institute or asylum maybe, at least that was the feel of it anyway, there were people in the place where I was who, i’m not really sure how to say it, but they were like patients pretty much, they weren’t fond of having company, I don’t remember much about the dream, but there was one part I remember kinda pretty well,

I was across from this girl, she very light skinned and had blond hair, I remember asking her, her name and she did not like that question and kinda started going away from me, she didn’t say words, but she made a sound, I then told her she didn’t have to tell me her name and she calmed down a bit, I then started getting closer to her to let her know I wasn’t trying to harm her or anything, I don’t think she thought I would harm her,

But from what I could remember she seemed unsure, at least that’s how i’m going to describe it anyway I think I was going for a hug of some sort, the last thing I remember was getting close to this random girl and then her turning and before I woke up it looked like she was going to bite me or something, it was like a weird vampire/zombie kind of situation,

It’s the only way I could explain it, I know this is weird dream to have, but it was a weird dream, I didn’t quite understand that one and i’ve had a lot of weird dreams before. I really don’t know what this post is about, I just kinda wanted to write something today since it’s been a few days, sorry if this ones very short and doesn’t make a whole lot of sense,

If it helps i’ll add another random thing to this post and say that it’s midnight and i’m just having dinner and when I say dinner I mean just rice, reason I stepped out for a few hours I ended up coming back around 11 and yeah I made the quickest thing to have in my stomach before I go to sleep which will be soon, most likely around 12:30am of some sort,

Hopefully i’ll be able to sleep, i’m really tired, but sometimes it takes me a while to actually get to sleep and my minds been pretty preoccupied today so we’ll just see how the night goes in terms of catching some z’s and that, I should be okay, but I don’t know….I guess I should close off this post now,

I was going to write something else, but i’ll just save it for later on today, since it’s now Sunday, I hope you all have a very good night and that you all are doing well, speak to you soon.

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa

Look At Those Eyes….

Song Of The Day: Look At Those Eyes By Alexz Johnson (this is one of my favorite songs from of course one of my favorite artists Alexz Johnson, love her!! The title of this post as you can see was inspired by it!!)

They say when you look into the eyes of someone, not only do you see the window to their soul, but you also get to really see their true emotions and how their actually feeling. We always try and hide the way we feel and that’s because we try not to let people know that were struggling, it’s odd though, we’re fine with showing off the happy parts of our lives and of ourselves, but when it comes to the parts we think no ones going to want to see, we hide it and try to lock it away so we’re not asked questions.

Once we find ourselves on the low side of town, we automatically feel as though we have to discard it and put up this front and pretend that everything is okay and that we’re fine…..that we don’t have any issues and were happy, but when you really get a good look, you see that’s not the truth, that’s why we tend to avoid people, because not only are we afraid that we’re going to ruin people’s moods with our own,

but we know that if people spend even the smallest amount of time with us and catch even a glimpse into our eyes…..they will know the truth and see all the emotions and struggles we tried so desperately to keep hidden away and having people see that, makes us want to crawl away somewhere and you may ask why, it’s because we’re ashamed and embarrassed to have to let those things show, the thought of a million questions and worrying…..

It’s for that reason we avoid, it’s for that reason, we think staying to ourselves is much better than being around people, at least when we’re alone we don’t have to worry about feeling uncomfortable with ourselves, because we’ve gotten so used to the feeling. If we’re around people when we aren’t feeling our best it’s like we have to pretend again, we have to go on stage and play this part that we really aren’t familiar with, but we make sure to sell the hell out of it as best as we can, sometimes it works…..

Other times not as much, that’s only because when you have people around you that know you, it’s hard to fool them, unless your acting skills are on a high that day….but everything you need or want to know are in the way of a persons eyes, some are lost, sad, angry…..

Then you have some that are full of light and are actually fine, other times though, when you’re looking into someones eyes you’ll find that they just don’t know what to do and are just trying to get things right someway, even though they have no clue what they’re doing.

P.S. This was a journal entry I wrote a few weeks ago, I felt this to be appropriate to share today, if you have any thoughts share it down below!!

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa~