Has Communication Really Become So Hard These Days!?

I tell you some people sure know how to communicate……I say that sarcastically by that way, in case that was missed!! Now i’m going to try and keep things on a positive outlook to this topic, because it just seems really easy to go on a negative rant here and i’m not going to lie to you guys, buuut, it’s kinda what i’m feeling here, however i’m going to do my best to keep it the rant from overpowering here…..Let’s just talk calmly about this!!

Before anything though……..i’m going to take a small break so I can eat, i’m kinda hungry so…..be right back (Lunch Break……) Back….sorry that took a while, you know I forgot just how good goldfish snacks are, if you’re not careful you’ll end up eating the whole bag, I had to put it away from me that’s how addictive they are, still good though!!

Anyway on to the topic of communications……now we all know that communications is a way of expression, when we communicate we tell about the things that we feel as well as what we care about, but it seems these days communication is a little hard to reach at time, scratch that it’s not the communication that’s hard, but the listening that seems to be the issue at times, why is that!? When did listening become so hard to do!?

Now let’s get this straight alright, sometimes we aren’t all great listeners and when we know we should be, we still sometimes have a hard time taking things in the way we should……it’s a weird thing, but even when listening and communicating is a hard thing, sometimes we need to know when to really listen, if there’s something that needs expressing we have to learn how to shut our mouths and open our ears, that’s how we show our support and love to people and if happens that someone we may just be encountering for the first time needs to express something,

That’s how we show care and compassion as human beings, sometimes we all have a little too much we’re trying to handle, some of those things being mentally or emotionally and so forth and because we do, we just need a little support, we may not ask about it, but sometimes you can just feel it or see even, we don’t always have to show support in a huge way, sometimes a simple ear to lend can be that big support that someone needs,

Having a chat can even be a big thing for some, I don’t think we look at listening and communicating as an important thing these days, some people would rather sit silently, not saying that’s a bad thing, because it’s not, it’s just sometimes silence can seem like an enemy and can be a little loud for our psyche to deal with especially when thoughts start being added the mix.

So just because silents can be a good thing for us, doesn’t mean we always want to sit with it for a long period of time…..sometimes we need distracts that help get us out of our heads and a good distraction is communicating in what ways!? Well that depends on what’s needed,

Sometimes it’s talking about what we’re feeling, other ways it’s talking randomly and seeing how weird the conversation can get, but the take away to those conversations is also listening, opening our ears and turning up the volume a little so we’re hearing everyone word possible,

That’s how we understand each other better and sometimes by doing that we help someone feel a little better and vice versa!!

All The Love ❤ ❤

Lexa

Tackling The Important Stuff……

Although things seems to be a little on pause with everything going on, it doesn’t mean that we should take away our focus on what is needing our focus…..there’s a lot of reasons to why everything is happening, mainly because the Earth is needing a little bit of healing, so that’s what it’s doing and that’s why we’re experiencing, what we’re experiencing!!

That being said, I do hope that those who are either effected or being effected heal and get better, we all know that this will all pass in time and that we just have to wait it out and I know for many it’s a little hard, but all we can do is try our best to keep focus and actually try and use this time wisely to work on the things that need to be worked on or tackle the sort of things that need tackling and all that jazz…….

It’s during moments like this where we’re having to really reflect and think about a lot of things…..what kind of things you might ask!? Well that depends really, sometimes only you know, what kind of things have a lot of you been finding yourself reflecting on lately!? If you’re answering or thinking to yourself about it, then it’s those things, now I don’t have a clue what those things are, but it’s that……if you’ve been ignoring certain stuff,

You’ll find that with this moment where we’re being forced…..okay let’s not use the word force, instead let’s use the word…..ADVISED!! We’re being advised to stay in until everything clears up……now you’ll notice that a lot of the things that we may have been ignoring let’s say, have found it’s way back on our attention radar, you may wonder why and it’s because we haven’t quite dealt with it, obviously, be it on purpose, not having the time,

or just not really knowing how to respond to it and so on…….with everything now going on though, those things are making themselves known and we’re being again, advised to try and deal with them….how, we may still ask or wonder!? By acknowledging it, instead of trying to avoid it!!

By avoiding it, we’re only delaying the issue or the things that clearly need working on, the more we avoid it, the worst it gets, you never want things to get too bad to the point where everything starts falling apart, so if we can we should really take a look and start acknowledging the things that need acknowledging because it’s so easy to put things off, the real challenge is realizing something needs working on and trying our best to look at those things, see what needs our attention and working on fixing it if we can.

I feel like I have more to say with this topic, but I think I might end up doing a video on it and talking a little bit more about it, this is just the main stuff!!

All The Love ❤ ❤

Lexa

White Spotted Ladybug (Bird)

Good morning everyone, hope everyone’s day is going alright and you’re all keeping safe and doing your best to stay healthy too, so I thought i’d talk about something, I wanted to share a dream I had last night, now I had a lot of different dreams during the night, but there’s a particular part of my dream that I wanted to discuss a bit, you may probably already know what that thing is based off the title of this post, i’ve been trying to figure out what exactly this dream means, but i’ve not been able to really figure it out.

Let’s just start with what I actually remember to this part of the dream, so in the dream, I remember walking up to something, it looked like an entry way to what could’ve been leading towards some kind of trail in the woods of some sort who knows, but there was an open gate to where I was in the dream, now I remember about to walk through the gate, where I could see a lot of leaves, probably coming off trees, but something had caught my eye to the right of me, upon looking at it a little closer I saw that it was a ladybug

Now as we all know, most ladybugs or birds as that’s their proper name, all have black spots on their back, not all ladybirds, but most of them do or at least are known to have them, but what was interesting was when I looked at them, instead of seeing black spots, I saw white spots upon the back of the ladybug and these spots were placed in a circle, which was a little weird to me, I then looked around a bit and saw another ladybug with the same white spots only that ladybug from what I can remember it’s spots were a little spread out like most ladybugs at least it seemed like it was,

So as you can see I made a little example to help you get an idea to what I was talking about, it’s simple and there’s not a lot to it I know, but the main things that I felt should be in it I kept, I did try to detail it out for you guys, but it wasn’t quite coming out the way I had in mind, but the main focus here is the ladybug with white spots, I also added the fence to showcase the entry way that was with my dream……..Imagine the white spots in a circle.

I did see a small black dot on this one, but it was very small, it was very weird, i’d never seen that before, I thought looking it up would help to get a better understanding on the meaning, but I could really find anything, just the normal meaning to what a ladybug means in a dream……but yeah I just wanted to share that, if any of you have an idea to what it could mean, do share, maybe some of you could help me to understand it in some way.

But that’s all I have to that, hope everyone’s well and doing okay, you all stay safe and be careful if some of you are out an about and if you’re home try and stay calm, I know this is a stressful time for some or most even, but things will be alright in time, take this time to rest if you need to, maybe do things that you haven’t been able to get to in this time, but most importantly just stay calm and keep your head up and know that it’s going to be alright!!

All The Love ❤ ❤

Lexa

Dreaming Of Recording….. Our Dreams Of Course!!

You ever wish or wonder about getting to relook at your dreams!? By dreams I mean actual dream like the ones we wake up from, think about it, you’re going to bed, you have a dream and then you awake from that dream and say you aren’t able to remember it or you want to look at something specific that happened in your dream, what would you do!?

Well you’d grab your pillow and plug it up to your computer and see everything you dreamt about the night before, I mean how awesome would that be!? I think it would be pretty cool, it’s something I think about sometimes as well as wish to be able to do, you just fall asleep and all your dreams are recorded in someway through our pillows……..

We wouldn’t have to try and remember them, we’d be able to see them, it’d be nice to be able to select which ones we choose to see, maybe we didn’t have a great night’s sleep and that caused us to toss and turn giving us nightmares in the process, we can decided whether we want to view that dream or discard it, but if we do that we probably wouldn’t really understand why we had that dream to begin with, but some dreams don’t really need to be remembered right!?

Maybe instead of discarding them all together, we could put them in a separate folder or something and view them later to decide whether their worth keeping or not remembering at all, dreams are quite the…..how do you say…..weirdest experiences we can have when asleep, some dreams are there just to be there, some can be very useful when needing to understand why we have them and some don’t make any sense at all……

Those ones i’d though, i’d call hidden gems, some of them anyway, but dreams can tell you a lot without actually always telling you, but most of the time we don’t always get them, they can be quite the puzzle when you’re really trying to figure them out, dreams are so unexplainable that even scientists don’t really know why we have them, we just do and maybe that has to do with that fact that our brains are always active even when we’re not using it, it gives us things we don’t catch on to right away and tells us when we’re less active, but sometimes, somehow we get it and other times,

We’re still left with a big question mark over our heads, but hey I guess that’s the fun of it right!? Unless you’re the type that likes to truly understand everything then we might as well call you Sherlock Holmes.

All The Love ❤ ❤

Lexa

For The Moment….

For the moment, you have to let it go, I know it’s hard and you may not want to, but for the moment you have to, it’ll come back around, you just have to give it time to do so, everything takes time, no matter how fast we may want it to go or how bad we want it to happen, it’s still going to take time, if we tried to rush everything we had going on, we wouldn’t be able to see all the progress we’ve made along the way, when we try and rush things we don’t give it the time it needs to fully unfold, sure it can turn into a stressful matter because we don’t know how everything will play out….

Not knowing can get pretty frustrating, but trying to rush things to happen is much more frustrating, because you’re expecting there to be quick results, you’re wanting everything to happen right away, you gotta give it the time it needs to come together, what is yours, will always be there for you, it’s not going anywhere, just because it may go for a while doesn’t mean that it’s going to go forever, it’s still there, but sometimes it has to go away in order for it to come back to you better.

It’s not always clear why and at times it’s not going to be and that’s okay, but you need to know there’s nothing to worry about, things just need time, you gotta give it time, trust that everything is working in the order it needs to, for the moment let the worries, stress and everything else go, put it to the side and let the control of wanting everything to play out a certain way go.

Everything will soon fall into place, but for the moment let it go, anytime you’re feeling this way, look back at this post or find a way to sit with this feeling and accept it, don’t fight it so much, instead try and look at it with different eyes, try to understand it and even if you don’t truly get it, know that that’s okay, but don’t feel you need to give up, you don’t have to give up,

Just GIVE IT TIME, LOOSEN UP and relax, stop stressing, it’s going to work out and it will come together, so take a breather, recollect and trust, keep that hope close to you and keep it in a place of safe keeping until then.

All The Love ❤ ❤

Lexa

Let It Go, Let It Be (These Are Also Song Titles)……

Just so everyone’s not confused, I only wrote this so I could look back at the title and make myself laugh, it’s not clever and i’m sure it’s not funny to you guys, but doing things like this, reminds me to laugh for the moment and not think too much about things so intensively, which can be hard, because I know the more I write on the post the more i’m going to end up back in my mind slowly, so it helps to have titles like these so while i’m writing,

I’ll remember to laugh for the moment on how weird I can be, even when it’s not really all that weird, don’t mind me much……that being said though, since we have a title about it, how about we talk upon this topic a little.

First i’m just going to say, i’m not really sure what i’m writing really i’m kinda just free styling here….that’s not a word is it!? I’m kinda just writing as I go along pretty much. When it comes to letting it go or it be, whatever that IT is, we’re not talking about the clown here just to clarify okay!!

It’s more about things in general, although i’m pretty sure i’ve talked about this before, but sometimes you have different perspectives, so it’s okay if you want to talk about things more than once.

Letting things go or be, what does it mean!? Well it can mean a number of things to be fair, but it mainly means not over stressing, not allowing things to get to you as much, especially when it’s not in your control or if it something really small. Now we all know this right!?

Yet……we don’t keep it with us even though we know it’s important to, that being said, sometimes, even most times, we can’t help, but hold things close, especially when it has special value or when it means something to us.

It should be easy to figure out what should be held on to and what shouldn’t, but there are moments and times where it can become a little gray when it comes to knowing what to keep and hold on to and what we should let be and let go of, now this could be for anything really, but where i’m trying to get at is more life with a side of mind related…..we all know life is quite the ride and everything and we also know how our minds work.

Combine those two and boy will you have quite the show ahead of you, a lot of the things we choose to grasp on to are things we aren’t always able to control, yet we think we can or we still try to, then you have the mind, which likes to store and store until can’t anymore, however it still believes it’s possible, now that wouldn’t be a bad thing, if what it was storing was helpful and important, sometimes it’ll do that, but most times it’ll have unwanted things that really aren’t great, yet it feels like it has to be there.

For example, you know how sometimes we read books or are looking at something important, interesting, stuff like that and there are things you want to remember or think “hey that’s cool, let me go and keep that in mind” so you highlight it and circle it, you feel all this information coming to you and you love it, so you continue to add things here and there to remember, but as you’re reading on and looking at things,

You don’t realize how much you’re actually highlighting and it’s not until the very end when you look at everything and notice that you’ve apparently found everything to be important so now you have all this neat information, yeah, buuut…..you aren’t able to tell what is actually really important and what is just extra information.

True fact actually: I used to do that, if I was reviewing or looking at something, I wouldn’t really know what was important and useful, so I ended up highlighting everything I felt was important, but would later end up really confused and would stress out trying to figure it out.

That’s how are brains can be, it’ll highlight everything and keep it and then later go into over drive trying to decide what’s actually useful and what’s not, most time it can’t tell the difference so it’ll just store everything, why!? I don’t know and maybe that’s the reason it does that because we ourselves aren’t always sure what is worth holding on to and what we should just let be……we give ourselves too much stress and a lot of it, just comes from small things, things that shouldn’t give us stress, but does, it’s a weird thing.

Trying to understand it, is also a weird thing, because even if we know it’s ridiculous and we’re upsetting ourselves with it, we still allow it……why!? I wish I could answer that, but I wouldn’t be in a good place to do so, because I do this, I do it a lot, you try not to, but it’s not easy, that’s why we always do everything we can to distract ourselves and although it’ll help for the moment it’s only temporary……..sometimes we don’t have a choice though, somethings are okay to let go of with ease, including the small things,

but with other things, sometimes we don’t want to get rid of it completely, even if we should or think we should, we don’t, because when it means a lot and it’s something you want to always keep near you, you hold on to it, you keep it in a safe place, it may go away from you, but it doesn’t mean you have to forget it or let it go…..sometimes you gotta just give things time,

You can keep it and put it away for a bit, try not to over clutter it though okay……keep it as clear as possible and when it’s time to return to it, you will. In the meantime however, anything that shouldn’t be stressed or thought about, you know all that junk mail and useless thinking, yeah just put that to the side and clear it away when you’re able to, no need to make everything look like a dump, just really go through and sort it all,

If you need to categorize it go right ahead, if you know it’ll take some time, take all the time you need, it’s not easy letting go of things, when you feel you’ve got all that you need sorted, you’ll know and feel it!!

As for stressing on small stuff and things you can’t control, those are best to let be, at least until you’re sure you’re able to figure out something, but for most things, you just gotta give it time or let it work itself out, because one way or another, you find that in the end it somehow always does.

All The Love ❤ ❤

Lexa

Let’s Sit And Chat: A Topic I Didn’t Think I’d Discuss….. Not This Much Anyway

I started out with a good amount of energy and now I have no idea where it went or is…….where’d it go I do not know. Since my energy is no where to be seen, how about we just sit and chat and talk about some random stuff, it’s been a while since we’ve connected on a deeper level.

Today’s chatting session is all about the thoughts i’ve had today, the first and main one had to do with the spiritual side, why!? For reasons let’s just say…..also because I was just thinking about it today, my brain activity was more active today then it’s been for a while, I don’t think i’ve ever asked myself a million and one questions before, especially not upon this topic,

but recently i’ve just been really curious about it, when it comes to the spirit world it’s very interesting because we don’t really know all that much about it you know!? We do and we don’t at the same time, but we would be fools to think that it doesn’t exist, I mean some people may not believe in that whole thing, but there are some that do, we don’t really know exactly what is beyond this life, where do we go, what else is there!?

Also for those who have brains that freak out with this kind of topic, just stay calm okay, believe me I know the feeling of those questions, just breathe, everything’s okay, it doesn’t hurt to be a little curious. We all know about energy, I mean we are energy really, if you didn’t already know well now you do, although i’m sure you didn’t need me to say that…..when it comes to the spirit world it’s one of those things that our brains have a hard time comprehending because of the fact that, we aren’t really able to see it

Unless you have that ability to do so, this is for those who have that talent and yes people do have that ability, but people who are skeptics or have a different viewpoint, probably won’t believe that sort of thing is for real, but we won’t go too much into that, people can have their viewpoint and believe what they want or they don’t have to believe anything at all, everyone has a right to their own perspectives and everything.

Which is respectable, there’s a lot of things that we have not the slightest clue on, for example, the ocean it’s massive, we know that for a fact so we don’t know what exactly is deep within the ocean, we’re still discovering new and weird species there and who know what is able to live deep with the places we as humans have never been to because we wouldn’t survive trying to find out, the only way we would be able to is:

1. Become a species that is able to live deep down in the dark and unreachable bounds of the unexplored ocean

or

2. Try and make a submarine that is able to with stand the depths and dark unreachable bounds of the unexplored ocean.

The second one might be in works, I mean I wouldn’t doubt it, but you get what i’m saying, just like the ocean and most of science and unanswered questions of the world, just like those things the spirit world is also quite complex, but it’s not as well, sure there are unexplainable things to it and we don’t always know everything unless you become connected to it, but just to put it simply, just because we don’t know or are unable to see with our eyes to know how real it actually is, it doesn’t mean it’s not real……

It’s just very complex to comprehend and it’s something that most people would choose to stay away from, which is understandable because you do have to be careful with it, but I wouldn’t say it’s all bad. In someways it can be looked at as comforting……i’m not sure if that’s the right word I should be using because most people wouldn’t think so, but to some you feel better knowing or having that feeling that you have people who have passed on watching you, not in a creepy way or anything, but more in terms of,

Making sure you’re okay and doing their best to keep you safe and unharmed, as well as having you keep on track, even when you think you aren’t they tend to let you know “you’re fine and that it’s going to be alright”

It’s a very weird and confusing situation at times, but our spirit guides which i’m sure we all have, we just aren’t sure who ours are exactly, but we have them and they make sure we’re good and are always there to help when we need them even though we can’t see them…..have I said very complex already, because yeah this whole topics always leaves me mind-boggled, yet fascinated all at the same time.

I mean sometimes you’ll find you’re presented with a spirit of someone or plural for that matter from the spirit world that you wouldn’t expect to show up, yet they do and most times you’re left think “what, why and how” but then you learn that if that’s happening, it’s because they have a message of some sort for you and sometimes you’ll find they’re just wandering about either because their curious or because they just want to say hi and all that jazz, maybe…..it’s the balance of the thing let’s just say,

With one thing you need something else to hold it or keep it balanced out otherwise it just wouldn’t feel right, we need a bit of in between whatever that in between is.

What are some of your thoughts on this topic!?

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa

Reading Between The Lines….(July 27, 2019)

Sometimes the things we say, are misinterpreted or aren’t as direct as we’d like them to be, even when the things we may be saying are literally said to be direct and taken in properly, does that make sense!? I hope so……

In case you’re still confused to what I mean with that well, no worries, i’ll try and explain it in the best way that I can……as the title says reading between the lines…..what does that mean you might wonder or maybe you know exactly what it means……

The way I see it, is when you’re being told something or you say something to someone else or maybe you’re reading something (I know that’s a lot of somethings in one sentence…..sorry….) that has a specific, message, advice or maybe even someth……I mean, maybe there’s a thing that you wouldn’t see as important, but is important for you to know, even though it’s being presented in a subtle kind of way (I think I nailed that okay…..hopefully)

It doesn’t matter how much you may try and get someone to see what you mean or are trying to get them to understand, sometimes, it still gets overlooked and you could even say it directly to how you mean it, yet you’ll probably end up facepalming yourself because the understanding of it, is still unclear to them or you maybe even sometimes, which is frustrating!!

Just when you think you maybe getting through and everything is sorted and properly understood the way you wanted it to be…..it always ends up being just a little bit off the center in some sort……sometimes you may think screaming it out will help the understanding of it better, but that’s not always the case, when that happens you sometimes think, somethings missing and that maybe you didn’t say it clear enough even when you did…..

Am I making sense here, feel free to let me know if i’ve lost you…..

I don’t know how else to explain it or how else to get it to be clearer, i’ve tried all these different ways of expressing it, but I just don’t know if it’s actually being understood, it’s said to be, but it’s really not when, what is being said in regards of the problem within a situation keeps getting overlooked and avoided as not being important enough………

I mean I know there’s other things to it as well and i’m working on it to fix it this time around, because I know it’s becoming a big issue and I really don’t want it to continue being that way because it’s not really fair for it to be that way…….in order for things to move forward, you have to allow yourself to move forward in the way that you’re wanting to, which can be hard, but at the same time beneficial and good too……

Overall, here’s to hoping that the reading between the lines here sits in this time, otherwise we’re going to be reading the same chapter over and over and to tell you the truth, it got old a long while ago, a new and different chapter to read and enjoy would really be nice, hope you got all that……

So what’s some of your takes on reading between the lines, is it similar to my definition or is yours a bit different, feel free to share if you like!!

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa~

Expression…..(July 18, 2019)

Some may think that this is the same thing as feeling and emotions, but it’s not it’s just a way of letting out what you’re feeling, it can also just be a regular expression, for example, when you say “i’m so hungry I can eat a whole truck load of tacos” it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re going to eat a truck load of tacos, you’re just expressing how hungry you are, you might not actually even be that hungry, it just feels like you are.

We express what we feel and what we’re thinking, sometimes we can be a little too blunt with it, but for some it works that way, if we’re feeling something strongly, we’ll say it how we feel it or how we’re thinking it, although sometimes we’re meant to watch how we say things because it can be taken a whole different way to how we’re actually meaning for it to sound…..which can be very hard to do.

Expressing ones feelings, thoughts and or emotions can be very tricky at times, because naturally we want to say things the way we feel it, which is why if you notice, whenever we are feeling a certain way, we go into our natural fight or flight mode……naturally we want to let out everything we’re feeling right then and there, but our conscience tugs us back to help us approach those emotions and feelings in the best way possible.

Sometimes that doesn’t always occur and we end up saying things that are either out of context or the wrong way to how we wanted it to come out and that has to do with the way our thoughts are, we think of all these different scenarios and ways to approach a situations, but when it comes to actually being front and center to it, our minds start to scramble again, putting us back to square one causing us say and mix up everything.

It can be a real pain when that happens because you know what you want to say, yet you find yourself saying something completely different to what you thought about originally and that’s why if you do find yourself wanting to express something, but you feel as though it may come out wrong and not make much sense, you’re meant to pick your words carefully and that is a task on it own, if everyone was able to say what it was they wanted without any consequences, I think it’d make people understand each other and their feelings more, but it would also still hurt people in a way.

Just because I said there would be no consequences doesn’t mean that people’s feelings wouldn’t still be hurt, they’d see things differently and understand what is being said, but again it would still hurt a little and that’s why majority of the time, people don’t say anything because they don’t want to hurt others feelings, but sometimes you have to rip the band-aid off a little even if it comes out in a way you tried many times to avoid……

How we express and the way we express it can sometimes feel like walking on a mine field, because you never know where you’re going to step with it, but holding our breath and being afraid to express our true feelings shouldn’t be something we do either, we all have a voice and a right to say how we’re really feeling and thinking, it’s not always easy…….

It can be one of the hardest things to do, but sometimes we need it, so that way we don’t suppress it, doing that only starts to build anger, resentment, stress and a whole lot of deadly emotions that don’t need to be kept in.

Take it from someone who’s emotions and feelings are way beneath the surface that even when it tries to come out, it ends up just going back and hiding away again, sometimes it needs a bit of work and sometimes it just ends up coming out naturally…..it’s a win lose situation with expression, but if done in the best way possible or decently or I guess in the only way you’re able to, it’s not always all that bad.

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa~

Feelings….. (July 18, 2019)

We all have them, sometimes we wish we didn’t, but then we wouldn’t really be human would we!? Here’s the thing……sometimes we let our own feelings get in the way of how other people feel, we may not try to do it intentionally, but sometimes we end up doing it unconsciously knowing creating a bit of a mess……although we have our own issues and problems to sort through, doesn’t mean we should ignore everyone’s else’s.

It’s okay to take time to work through your own feelings and emotions, but when it’s the only thing we focus on, we tend to fail at acknowledging how someone else maybe feeling, which is important because we don’t know half of the things that people go through or deal with alone.

We say we listen and that we understand but do we really!? Believe it or not besides communication, listening and understanding (as well as other things) are the two main things that are needed in order to build a healthy and better relationship with someone, whether it’s romanic, non romantic, a friendship kind of relationship whatever, it’s important to take others emotions and feelings into account…..

Really thinking about it, it’s no wonder, most people separate from other people or keep things to themselves……we as humans aren’t the best people these days, especially when it comes to communicating, listening and understanding someone, we’re so wrapped up in ourselves and our own life, that we will just brush off anything that doesn’t revolve around our own feelings which can be quite selfish at times.

We shouldn’t be telling people to go away because we have our own things to worry about or we just aren’t feeling what their feeling, sometimes we need people or we just want to talk to someone, whether it’s a serious topic or a random one, telling someone to go away or to stop talking, causes a lot of the issues that we encounter in day to day life…….

When I was younger I used to get told all the time to stop talking so much or that something else was more important than expressing something that I wanted to express, so I know what that feels like…..the feeling of wanting to talk to someone, but being told to go away or being ignored when your saying something, it hurts….

It’s no wonder people keep things to themselves these days, I mean really who can they talk to if people don’t want to listen!? It’s why most of us develop or have some kind of mental illness, we bottle things up because we feel we have to or we think if we talk about what we’re feeling no ones going to really listen or understand anyway so why even bother!?

A lot of the time we don’t even take mental illnesses serious, even though we should because it’s one of the things that can be harmful to someones life, if not taken seriously enough, that kind of thing should never be ignored, but overall dealing with feelings, stress, thoughts anything…..

It’s not just us dealing with it, there’s always someone going through a rougher time, dismissing or skipping over how someone else feels, will only cause them to closed themselves in more and not express how they’re really feeling and if they do try to express their emotions and thoughts, they’re going to think twice about it because they don’t know if it’s okay and that they should or if it’s just going to be a waste of their time.

People can be very stubborn and not realize that, they’re not the only ones that hurt, we don’t take in other peoples feelings the way we should and it’s because of that, people will tend to distance themselves or drift away, it’s not always because they want to, sometimes it’s because they feel they can’t talk to anyone or that no ones going to listen, other times it’s fear of being rejected or that their just bothering people…….

Sometimes the best way to really know how someone is feeling is to ask them directly and not in a forceful way, genuinely ask them, how their doing and if they’re okay and want to talk, if they don’t want to talk right away give them a bit of time and try and ask again later, sometimes you have to go out of your way in order to really understand someone one, even if they don’t want to talk, try to listen and understand how their feeling,

Without criticizing them and trying to add your input in, if their expressing why it is they feel the way they do and are talking to you about it, listen!! If they say “this is how I feel and i’m telling you this is why i’m feeling it” don’t say “okay this is how your feeling, this is what I think” (sorry to say it this way, but it’s the only way it’s going to come out )

DON’T ADD YOUR INPUT……unless they ask for it and if or when they do, try and be understanding with it, help them sort through their feelings and or thoughts and help them come up with a solution to help them get through it. When expressing our thoughts and feelings, all we want and need is someone to just listen and understand…..

Just like when we are needing for someone to listen to us, we should be able to do the same for other people who are needing it, we should never make someone feel like they can’t talk about their own issues or express themselves, especially when their trying to express on something serious.

Whether we like what we’re hearing or not, we shouldn’t go shutting down other people’s emotions, we’re human and one of the things we are born with is compassion and if we can’t bother to really hear someone out when they’re begging for it secretly or desperately wanting someone to talk to, that says a lot about who we are and it’s not good……

We all have feelings and stresses in life, but we can still take time to try and get to know, as well as listen and understand someone.

Instead of judging someone and assuming all kinds of things and that, ASK!! if you really want to know or are curious on how someones doing or what’s going on in their life, just ask them, you might get a lot more out of them than asking someone else about it……

P.S. Sorry if this came out jumping at you haha, didn’t mean for that, I just had a lot to get out and this was the only way I guess I was able to get it out, hope you’re all doing well and having a good day!!

All The Love ❤ < 3

~Lexa~