The Cycle Continues….(July 10, 2019)

“It’s a circle, I mean cycle” may not seem like the grandest lyrics, but it sure is one of the best lyrics written by the band Paramore, from their song Ignorance, it’s quite simple, yet still affective and one of my picks for the song of the day (if you haven’t heard the song, i’d say give it a listen, if you like that kind of music anyway)

Now i’m not sure if any of what i’m going to write is going to make sense, but let’s see how it all turns out, it might just do……I don’t really understand why some of us do this, why do most of us feel the need to put energy into something that isn’t going to benefit us in the long run!?

Seriously….I mean I get that there are just some things that are hard to ignore, but why bother going out of your way to let certain situations, things and even people affect you!? I could understand if the feeling of the affect is mutual, especially if the affect is coming from certain people, but if you find yourself being the only person getting fired up and agitated all the time, wouldn’t you just leave it alone after awhile!?

Why feed the beast, if you know the beast isn’t going to budge when you’re feeding it!?……I know this is probably a random example, but it came to mind so i’m going to use it, you know in the movie Napoleon Dynamite where he’s trying to feed Tina the Lama or Alpaca dinner (not really sure which one it was, might’ve been a Lama if correct, but I could be wrong)

In the movie he’s trying to feed her, but she’s not eating the food that he’s giving her and you can see, if you’ve watched the movie, how the more he tries to feed her and he sees she’s not eating, the more he ends up frustrated about it…….now i’ve watched that movie a couple times……it’s quite a classic actually, maybe not for everyone and that’s okay.

Thinking back at that scene though, if he noticed she wasn’t eating it right away, had he just maybe given her the food and left it for her to eat when she was actually hungry, it probably would’ve kept his frustration levels low…….what i’m trying to get at is, instead of getting angry or annoyed and letting your emotions run wild as well as continuing to have your stress levels on the roof all the time,

Try just leaving it……actually scratch that, leave it alone, keep it from affecting you so much to the point where it starts affecting everyone else around you, because you may think that your the only one that feels the way you’re feeling, but deep down whether we want to see it that way or not, deep down we know that our moods and the energy that we tend to bring out, affects everyone that is near……

However when it comes to people and certain situations that’s giving you more of a cloud over your head, it doesn’t necessarily mean that person or situation is going to put the same cloud over everyone else’s head, the only thing that will affect everyone is the kind of energy that is being put out…..so if your energy isn’t the greatest and sucks (sorry, yet not sorry) as well as your attitude, It’s going to scatter out on everyone else……

The same way rain falls from the sky and unless you enjoy gloomy days (I do at times, not always, I enjoy rain though) I would avoid or at least minimize and not bother as much on the things, situations or people that really doesn’t keep you on at least a good neutral scale.

If it’s affecting you more than it should and it’s taking you away from having some kind of peace of mind, stop going out of your way to feed it, stop worrying about it, just take the Beatles advice and “Let It Be”

It’s not worth your energy, time or sanity……if we can be good at avoiding calls and messages to some people, than we can manage to not put ourselves in harms way with things that drives us up the wall. We have the ability to tune people out, which by the way isn’t always ideal, because it’s important to listen to people when something is being said, even if we don’t want to hear it and we’ve all been there and done that many times…..

Overall, don’t worry about things that aren’t your things to worry about, especially when it involves only you with a sword, just focus and worry about you, as well as the things and people that keep you grounded.

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa~

Write Like Yourself…. (July 4, 2019)

They say to write like yourself, but what does that even mean exactly!? How are you supposed to write like yourself!? It should be an easy thing to understand, yet when it comes to doing so, it feels hard, am I the only one that feels that way!?

Do you write about your feelings or your thoughts!? Most people might say experience, but what if you haven’t really experienced much in particular or aren’t sure on how to write about the things you’ve experienced!? What if you’ve always been the kind of person looking from the outside in with everything, not really knowing what to do or how to react, causing you to feel like expressing yourself is something you should keep to yourself…..

I don’t know if any of that makes much sense, but seriously how do you write like yourself, when you aren’t even sure if what you’re going to write about is something that’s going to make sense or will be understood properly!? It’s just a little confusing when you’re told to write like yourself, yet aren’t really sure in what way, it’s mean’t to mean…….

Write what you feel, write what you think, yet you know that when it come to writing as well as any other showcasing of things, we like doing it’s not just for you, we’re not just creating and sharing for ourselves, maybe in the moment we are, but once it’s out there, it becomes more than just our own.

It’s there for everyone to see and take in, which of course is very intimidating, that kind of thing might make you feel as if what you’re doing already isn’t quite working and than you become stressed and overwhelmed because you want to know what else you could do to make what you already have better, yet you aren’t exactly sure how to do so….

“Write like yourself” how do you know you’re doing that right!? How do you know you’re putting the right thoughts into motions without it seeming as if your rambling or not making sense……how do you know if everything is coming across alright!? “Write like yourself” you guys know what that means because if so, you got any tips to help me understand it better!?

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa~

Understanding…..

Do you ever feel as if your not understanding things as much as you think you are!? Things will happen and be said to you, but you feel as if you’re still lost in a sense, like everything is a lot more harder to comprehend then they feel……….i’m not sure how to explain that part if it’s a little hard to get. Everything just seems to have it’s own language and you try and keep up with it all, yet you still feel like you’re not getting it in the way you should……….it should be easy to get it, yet it’s not always the case, understanding something is a lot harder than what most people would think it is, there are certain things we’re able to pick up quickly and then you have other things that are like why can’t we get it right away!?

However I feel the only reason certain things are harder to get then others is because we have a hard to time breaking things down in order to make it easier for ourselves to understand, certain things are a whole lot simpler than what we keep telling ourselves, sometimes we’ll end up shaking our own head at ourselves because although we know this, we can’t find ourselves to really understand that. Now certain things are easy to understand if we let ourselves get it, but there are other things that are a little more complex to get and with those things, even though we want to get it right away, sometimes we need to give ourselves time to get them.

If we pressure ourselves to understand something or if we pressure others to understand something, we’re only gonna make it a lot harder by trying to get it and trying to get others to get it, when we know that we’re only making it worst. In a stressful situation you have to learn to stay calm and you have to learn to give yourself and others time to understand things better, because there will be times where we come across something, but we aren’t sure how to comprehend it right away, but when that happens, we need to keep in mind that kicking ourselves down and being hard on ourselves for not understanding, isn’t going to make us understand it quicker.

Unless your someone who thrives under pressure very well, don’t beat yourself up for not understanding, even the people who are good under pressure, still learn that they shouldn’t be so hard on themselves too much as well. It’s okay to be hard on yourself sometimes, but we have to keep in mind that sometimes we need to give ourselves a break so we can calmly figure the thing we aren’t getting out right then and there without all the pressure, there’s only so much pressure we can take in before we need to just step back and regroup everything that is being put in our faces to get. When you give yourself that clear mind and that sense of calmness that you need, everything that surrounds you and is on top of you, will become just a little bit easier to deal with and you’ll find that the understanding of it also becomes a little bit clearer to you, it may not be a whole lot, but it will be a bit easier then what it was before, telling yourself to take it easy helps too.

When you become aware that you’re under a lot of pressure and you know that you’re not getting things as quickly as everyone else might be, feeling like you won’t ever catch up or that you’re not gonna ever get it, that’s not something you should put in your mind, because then your mind will believe it and then that’ll cause you to stress out more and you don’t want that, you have to talk to yourself and tell yourself that you may not be getting it now and you may feel as if you’re not understanding or you won’t understand it, but don’t be so hard on yourself, just breathe and stay calm, you’ll get it, just give yourself the time to get it……….the more you force yourself to try and get it the more you’ll make it harder for you to get it.

Lastly, sometimes when you think you’re not getting it, you actually are getting it, you’re just trying to convince yourself that you don’t, when deep down you do or you know it a bit more than you think you do. Don’t underestimate yourself like that, when you do that you tell yourself each time, that you’re not capable and you doing that causes you to not believe in yourself and the abilities that you have, if you don’t get it right away you don’t get it right away, it’s okay that’s not a bad thing, but don’t second guess yourself on the things you already know, don’t think, just go with the feeling.

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa~