Do What You Like, Be Free To Be Whatever!

This is probably one of the most cheesiest titles you’ve read or maybe not….if I’m being honest this title is a combination of two different lyrics from two different songs, both favorites of mine and by two artists that I admire! The first part of the title come from the song Living In Colour by non other than my all time favorite artist Alexz Johnson while the other part, kind of comes from the song No Regrets by an artist named Dappy at least it’s inspired by it anyway….I don’t know how many people know of either artist, but Alexz Johnson has always been one of my favorites since the moment I saw her show Instant Star, it was then I knew I found an artist I was going to listen to forever!

As for Dappy, I was introduced to his music by my partner whose a really big fan of his, the first song he ever had me listen to by Dappy was called Money Can’t Buy, it’s a love song of course, but it’s an amazing song and one of my other favorites!! Now Dappy isn’t just a singer he also raps too and comes from the UK, he also had this group called N-Dubs which had him, his cousin Tulisa and a friend of his I believe named Fazer who happens to rap as well! Now I’m not here to talk about these two artists, although they are great and their music is always a pleasure to listen to, I just wanted to explain the title name…..however I should point out that the actual lyrics to Dappy’s No Regrets is “I’m Free To Be Whatever I….”following a few bar flows after those lyrics!

What I really wanted to talk about is what I mean with the title I have there, well I will do my best to explain it at least! Now to me, both these lyrics have an encouragement feel to them, “Do what you like” by Alexz Johnson meaning “go for it” while the actual lyrics to Dappy’s song No Regrets ” I’m free to be whatever I…” that one goes more on the fact of having that freedom to do, well going back to the first song, pretty much whatever you like, being whoever it is you choose to be and allowing yourself to have the confidence to say “this is my life and I will decide how I want to live it” it’s letting you know to go after anything you believe in and are truly wanting without those regrets in the back of your mind, where you’re asking yourself “what if”

Keeping the what if’s in your head will always make you feel like, you have to just go with what’s there, but life isn’t about being okay with that, you have to be okay with change no matter how scary it is…..you don’t want to sit back and think to yourself “I didn’t, I should’ve, maybe” We always hear how short life is and the thing with it is, we think because we are still here doing the things we’re doing and getting to certain ages that it’s not really short, but it actually is….because you can walk past someone and that day their fine, but when you go to see them again….something is different and then next thing you know….you’re no longer seeing them!!

It’s a frightening scary thing and it’s something I don’t like to think about, but when you really look at it, it really does say a lot….we’re always worrying about everything, but that’s because we’re feeling things that we don’t even understand sometimes…..but it comes with the experience of life, but life is also meant to be experienced, you’re meant to be inspired, to be entertained and say “woah I’ve never seen that before or let alone known that it could exist” You’re meant to explore and feel different things, in different ways then imagined!!

There’s a lot of fear that is hard to shake within us, I have a few fears myself and one of them used to be change, I didn’t like things changing, I liked being safe and comfortable, I always thought that I wanted everything to stay the same, until eventually I witness change happening around me, forcing me to become uncomfortable and really see things differently and before I knew it…..I started to change and I saw how me changing and wanting different started to effect people around me!

I was always a certain way and when I stopped being that certain way and being vocal about it….it wasn’t well received, but I knew that it needed to happen because had it not happened, I would’ve still been in that situation…..the older I get the more I’m realizing how important it is to really go after what it is you want and not be afraid or feel bad for wanting those things, we’re allowed to want things, we’re allowed to say “hey this is what I’m doing, it’s okay that you don’t agree or like it, but I’m doing it anyway” it may be a scary thing to do, but it’s better to be brave and do it while shaking the nerves away, then to not do it and stress yourself out about it and how you should’ve done it….it’s okay to take that breath if needed, but if you find yourself feeling something like this lately then you may just want to consider some of these words

You don’t necessarily have to, but if you know there’s something in your heart that you would like to do and have been thinking about for a while, it really doesn’t hurt to give it a go and try, the only thing that will happen is that you’ll find yourself growing more and possibly enjoying yourself as you experience that new thing that is speaking to you!

That’s all I want to say, hope you all have a good rest of the day, stay safe and take care!

All The Love ❤ ❤

Lexa

Plans & Decisions…

I’ve never been one for planning you know, which you probably do because I’ve mentioned it a few times on here, me and plans….don’t mix, however I’ve come to a point in my life where, I’m finding myself trying to plan for things which is usually not my department, but if the time has come for me to really sit and plan things properly then I’m going to do it! I’m going to put myself in an uncomfortable situation and face it the best way I can, scared and full of nerves combined!

Today has been a bit of a rough day for me, I’ll admit, I woke up with soooo many thoughts in my head and trying to sort them is completely new to me, I don’t normally sort my thoughts out well and so trying to do that today has got my head just full of aches lol…..but it’s okay because I know that there’s something that is very important I want to do and if I end up losing a little bit of sleep from it or feel myself getting slightly anxious on, I’m alright with that! Plans aren’t my normal cup of tea, but I’ve been trying to embrace it a little better instead of getting intimidated by them,

Plans are important they can help layout things so you don’t feel all over the place! Normally I like going with things naturally, but I’ve also been learning that sometimes you need to plan for things in order to work them out, if you just let things always go as they are, whatever is most important to you can get away from you and if that’s something you don’t want then you have to really work at them and take those steps to having them come to fruition and making them happen…..I’m always being told that life is short and you want to make sure you’re always giving attention to the things that matter most even if it seems hard, it can seem like you won’t get there, but if you want it enough and you believe in it enough….you already know that it can get there, you just have to take those steps to get them there!

Now with the things that I’m planning, there’s a few decisions that I’ve come to realize I need to face and deal with, even though some of the stuff may not be my favorite to want to deal with…..it’s up to me to take that breath, put on a brave face and do it anyway…..with planning you also have to make decisions tough or not, because that’s the only way for you to grow better and to experience things without all the limits of it all it all, you have to allow yourself to fly even if you are bat scared shit of it and yes I’m saying it just like that because it’s how I’m feeling it at the moment….if we continue to always keep ourselves on the ground, as safe as it may be sometimes you have to also fly or float otherwise you’ll always be there wishing you could soar that blue sky!

I recently went on a trip as you may know if you read that post and I was really nervous when I was waiting to go on the plane, but once I got on the plane…..I don’t know I was very happy, I smiled to myself knowing I did something that scared me and even when I was on the vacation I was on…..I was ready to go back on the plane……it just felt good and I really enjoyed myself knowing that I was ahead somewhere that I hadn’t been yet and that’s what I want to continue, I want to keep discovering, exploring and going on adventures…..but also I want to share that experience and so if I need to plan in order to do that, like I said…..I will!

The upcoming plan idea is to finally be able to see my love again and figure out how we can be together permanently, we both have wanted that for a good now sooo, I’m just hoping that it all goes well for us this time, which we’ll make sure it does!

Planning By A Non Planner (Personal Thoughts) Ep. 32 Daydreamer's Podcast

Hiya everyone, hope you've been having a good week so far! In today's episode, I talk about some of my own personal thoughts that I've been feeling today and about planning….something I see as intimidating normally, but I've been trying to embrace it a little better this time around and really do my best with it all! 

All The Love ❤ ❤

Lexa

Writing Prompt: Write About Yourself

Objective: Describe yourself, surroundings, frame of mind and emotional state, but try and write it in a third person point of you (he/she not I or me)

She wakes up to a repeated routine, washing dishes, making coffee with toast and then sits on her bed in the center of the room. She grabs a few journals from her bookcase, adds a little background noise and tries her best to look busy when deciding on what she can write about in a journal.

Her mind soon starts wandering, thinking on how she should be more productive then this. Feelings of guilt and stress come over her, making the situation look like a good place to sulk and and sit in self-pity, she tries to come up with solutions that could help her to move forward, but she lets herself think of outcomes to trying, letting in the Anxiety and giving her an excuse to not go fourth with it, knowing full well it wasn’t a good one.

She asks herself questions, that she already has the answers to, asking people for advice and tips, hoping that this time she’ll finally put them into actions herself, without the need of guidance. She locks herself away and forces herself to stay where she is, even though she knows it’s not where she wants to be, she glances outside her window, watching everyone’s life inattentive of her own, as she sees it as better. Deep in thought,

She wonders how it got so bad, but only she would know the true answer to that, it was her that held back, allowing herself to fall behind when all she had to do was try harder, she allowed her head to get the best of her in moving forward, underestimating herself and believing she wasn’t good enough. If only she would allow herself to be confident and trust in the abilities that she possesses, instead of questioning and second guessing herself, things would change and be a little better, she just can’t bring herself to believe she has it in her to do so, why you might ask!?

Fear, it’s fear that keeps her hidden, it’s the thought of being judged and feeling as if she won’t fit in wherever she goes, that she’ll feel too out of place. It’s the worry that whatever she does, won’t be good enough, those fears have always been there, but it’s not until now that they’ve started slowly coming to the surface, not fitting in never really bothered her before, but now it ends up in the back of her mind at times, those fears need to go if she wants to get anywhere and even she herself knows it’s time to move.

P.S. I hope I did this whole writing prompt right, I found this creative writing prompt website last night, okay I searched for it more like, I was curious and wanted to see what kind of prompts there were so I could try my hand at it, there were quite a few, I might try out another one, this one was fun, it actually made writing a little less intimidating….

If you would like to give it a try as well, the link is here: Creative Writing Prompts there’s other prompts on there as well if you prefer to do a different one, it’s good writing practice, at least that’s what I think prompts are for, I don’t really do them all that often ha. Hope you enjoy!!

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa~

Anxiety Vs Intuition……

I read this article yesterday about the difference between Anxiety and intuition, the reason I looked it up is because I wanted to know if there was a difference and also because I was going back and forth with myself a bit on something and every time I would go to do what I wanted to do, I get this feeling in my stomach and so I felt the need to look up the difference between the two. If you want to read the article you can find it here: https://www.bustle.com/p/8-unexpected-differences-between-intuition-anxiety-that-could-help-you-listen-to-your-inner-voice-9078931

For those who don’t really want to read the article, i’ll give you guys some of the information that I took in from it, but before I do that, i’m just gonna explain a bit more on what the the article talked about. In the article they give you a bit of a break down on the differences on Anxiety and Intuition, it may seem like they’re really isn’t much of a difference but give the article a read and believe me you’ll soon discover that there is a big difference between the two.

When I was reading it, a lot of the stuff that was being talked about was actually pretty surprising, but also pretty interesting as well, for example: You know when people always say to go with your gut feeling!? Well in the article they quoted someone saying that when you have Anxiety it’s not a good idea to trust your gut feelings, because of the fact that with Anxiety, it always makes it seem like everything is wrong, which is very true.

Trying to go with your gut feeling when you know that you struggle with Anxiety would probably be your worst nightmare because you’ll just end up being confused on it, always wondering whether or not it’s your Anxiety or if it’s your gut feeling speaking to you when it comes to trying things and everything, which like I said would not only be a nightmare, but it would also be a big headache at that as well, because you’ll just be panicking all the time trying to figure it out.

There were a few other things in that article that I found to be very interesting, which i’ll list for you guys:

Anxiety is just a reaction when it comes to something we’re scared of or if we’re feeling threatened by something: So with this, all it is, is just our mind feeling like it needs to protect us from anything it feels will be harmful to us, sometimes it’ll even be simple things, anything that is completely new to the mind will make you feel anxious because of it being something completely different and as we all know different isn’t familiar.

However they say that if you feel that your anxiousness could be an intuitive feeling, they say to try and think about why it is your feeling anxious and where it may possibly stem from and when you’re thinking about where it comes from, they say to be honest with yourself about it that way you’ll be able to deal with it better and tell the two apart as well.

Intuition they say actually comes with a relaxed feeling instead of an intense one: This is actually one of the biggest ways to tell the two apart, they say that the big difference between Intuition and Anxiety is the way they make you feel physically and emotionally. When I read this part, I was surprised because I didn’t know that with intuition you’re meant to feel calm and not overwhelmed or stressed out, Anxiety is the complete opposite of that, Intuition is a more knowing kind of feeling that tells you, you don’t need to worry and that everything’s okay.

Anxiety tends to come with physical symptoms, while Intuitive feelings don’t: When dealing with Anxiety you’re bound to come across a few physical symptoms such as, stomach pains, panic and sometimes it’ll make you feel like you need just a little bit more breath then regular, if that makes sense, there’s other physical feelings with Anxiety, but those are just a few.

Anxiety as we all know is just built up fear that makes you want to avoid things, Intuition on the other hand is being aware of that feeling of fear, but still having the strength and courage to go against it and not let it stop you overall.

Intuition focuses on the present of things while Anxiety tends to  focus on the future of everything: Gotta love that!!……..

Anxiety is much more demanding than Intuition is: This is true, anytime time you try and listen to that inner voice of yours that actually tries to help you, here comes Anxiety with it’s own opinion trying to convince you otherwise. Nothing else can be heard, but Anxiety, it doesn’t leave you alone even when you try to ignore it, it does this thing where if you don’t listen to it, it tends to get louder, making it harder to resist it and believe me when I say, it’s a huge pain in the neck………Intuition though is a lot nicer to you, but if you wanted to ignore it, it’s actually a lot easier to ignore than Anxiety is.

Intuition is more on bigger moments while Anxiety focuses on anything and everything else: With Anxiety if it’s important, you become anxious and if it’s not important, you can still become anxious………..with Intuition it rarely focuses on the small things which is why it doesn’t bother you as much.

And lastly,

Intuition feels more detached: Meaning it doesn’t hold on to you for dear life the way Anxiety does, Intuition is more of a realization on something that comes to you, without causing you to over analyze, but when it does come to you, you’re meant to react quickly to it, without thinking so much on it and if you wait that gives Anxiety a chance to show up and try and convince you to re-think everything pretty much.

So that’s pretty much everything that was talked about in the article, I had to look back on it, to kinda get a better understanding on it again and from the list they gave, I tried to list them as well and explain them in my own words so hopefully you got a better understanding on the differences between the two, be it from my post or the article itself.

If you guys have any thoughts on the article that you’d like to share feel free to comment them down below, i’d love to hear about it, also go and check out the article as well, it’s really good.

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa~