Bonding & Just Being Together….

You know what I love!? The show that is The Masked Singer, now before I continue, I just want to say that this post was going to be all about The Masked Singer and how great it is in my words, but then I started writing and I felt it change into a different topic as I continued soo it’s not just going to be about the Masked Singer…..it might end up being a little deeper than that….maybe, we’ll see where it goes…..back to part of the Masked Singer, like I said I love that show, I can’t even tell you how much I love it!

It’s such a cool and interesting concept to sometimes wrap your head around, but you love anyway! It’s obviously a singing show, but with a more unexpected twist to it and it’s just beautiful!! I always watch the show with my mom, we both enjoy it and I won’t watch it without her! I do that with everyone though, if I start a show with someone or I know there’s a specific movie that I like, but is also a favorite to someone close to me, it’s not just a regular movie or show anymore, it turns into a tradition shared with someone you love and means a lot to you!

For example featuring a confession time:

I won’t watch the movie Grease or watch the show Jane The Virgin without my guy/partner I can’t do it! Especially Grease like even clips of Grease moments or hearing some of the songs is a no go, well I can hear the songs now a bit…..I have two of them on both my Spotify and regular phone music, but when I’m missing him loads…..it’s really hard to hear them! I have the movie and I love the movie, it’s one of my favorites…..but I won’t watch it without him at all, because it’s our movie so yeah lol!

Anytime I think of watching something that was shared with somebody, I won’t watch it and the same goes with specific songs too…..if a song reminds me of someone, it can be hard to listen to at times, not always, but there are moments that I’ve had where a song that I love or enjoy has played and I quickly change it because it reminded me of someone! There are songs that I do let play even if it reminds me of a specific person, it really depends though on the song and what memory comes with it!

It might be a weird thing to not want to watch or listen to something because someone specific isn’t around to watch it with you or because you get a moment in time that plays out when hearing a specific song that has you thinking of that person, but I don’t see it like that! The way I see it, if you are watching something with someone else, listening to a song that gives you those fond memories or just doing something in general with that person…..you are sharing something and being open and inviting to want to have that experience with just that person and no one else…..it’s a bonding experience as well as being/spending together and enjoying this special thing at the same time!

We can enjoy these things by ourselves of course, but there’s just something about having that special bond with someone and both of you just happy to share those moments together! That’s a different experience, different feeling in itself and again it may be weird to some people and it might get seen as corny, don’t ask me why I chose to say that word, it was the first one that came to mind…but I don’t care because I love those moments where it’s shared with someone close to you and you see the other person enjoying it the same way you are!

My favorite is when you’re showing someone something they haven’t watched/listened to or maybe haven’t experienced yet and as they are learning about it for the first time, you’re there looking for their reaction to see if they’re liking it or not (hopefully I used all that correct) I don’t know how to explain it, but those first time moments are one of the best, because you’re getting the most honest reactions that you’re only going to see once! 9/10 most of the things that you like, isn’t always going to be something someone else likes…..

When that happens you have to learn to accept people not having the same interest as you, cause in reality it’s going to happen…..however there will be times where you both are showing interests into something and you find out that you both either really like it or you hate it! One of you may even enjoy it more while the other isn’t for it as much!

It’s the process of the thing, trial and error, but at the same time you learn something new with it and you grow to know someone as well with what they like and don’t like! It’s nothing personal if someone doesn’t enjoy the same things you do same goes vice versa, at the end of the day, it’s all about being together and being open to giving these moments a try even if it’s not your best cup of joe or tea! What’s important is the experience as well as bonding and enjoying each other’s company!

All The Love ❤ ❤

Lexa

The Journey Of Learning & Growing….

One of the best things to witness is watching someone grow and evolve, be it a child, someone that you saw go through a very tough point in their life or even just you yourself, there’s no age limit when it comes to learning and growing…..you could be in your 50s and you may already know a whole lot, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still learn something new let alone won’t learn something new, there’s so much to life that will always leave us surprised even when you think you’ve seen it all already!

I’ve witness a few transformations, a lot of them may not be fully, but I’ve seen a few and the ones I have seen, still amaze me and sometimes I find myself thinking about those transformations, I’ve watched my boyfriend come out of something that he struggled with for a while, not necessarily in person, but just the aftermath of what happened in his life in that time, it’s how we met, he was just starting to get back to himself again! I’ve seen my nephew who I consider my nephew, I first met him when he was 3, so I’ve only known him for a year now pretty much and I remember how he’d never wanted to listen to anyone, you know usual kid stuff, his favorite word was always NO and you couldn’t tell him anything, without him crying and throwing tantrums and wanting everything to be his way

and then you have his mom who worked all the time and when it came to trying to stop him from having those tantrums it was hard for her to put her foot down with him, obviously no parent wants to yell at their child, any good parent anyway, it’s hard because you try to be a parent, but you also don’t want to be a parent in a sense of when your child starts throwing those tantrums and they aren’t listening to you, you don’t want to have to punish them for it, because all you want is for them to see you in the best light possible and when you come to those moments to where you know there needs to be rules……it can be hard, but sometimes you know you have to do it!

But back to what I was talking about…..all three people here have gone through big transformations and you wouldn’t believe it if I told you, my boyfriend one of the biggest transformation I’ve ever seen and also haven’t seen, but if you knew him when I met him and you were to see and learn about everything he endured, you’d be extremely surprised, it still surprises me when I think about it sometimes, just to see and learn the difference in the person that he once was to who he is now, like I wouldn’t know where to begin on that story, hopefully I’ll be able to really tell it or have him tell it one day, I mean it is story about his journey anyway and it really is a beautiful and life changing one at that! I’m very proud of how far he’s gotten, I love you Jord, forever and always!

As for my Nephew…..he’s 4 now, but will be turning 5 in November and let me tell you something, he is one hell of a smart kid, seriously and he’s gotten a lot better at really trying to understand everything, he doesn’t give you too much of a issue now when you are telling him not to do something or you’re trying to help him learn certain things, he actually listens expressing something to him which I’m glad to see, it was a mission and a half when I first met him, he talks a whole lot more now, like a lot, he wouldn’t really say much before, he was just always shy and wouldn’t come up to you, he’d just be in his own little world, now forget about it!! He will talk to you for hours if he really wanted to, he’s quite the character, very silly, but he’s the sweetest boy every, he’s very kind, he likes making people laugh and just showing you things all the time, buut don’t let his adorableness fool, he knows what he’s doing!

He’s a little demon and I say it all the time to him, which he knows too because he always laughs about it! He knows how to get what he wants, however he knows who to go for when he wants something, spoiler it’s not me, he knows better than to pull anything with me, like I said he’s a smart one, I wouldn’t be surprised if he turned out to be an evil genius, I’m joking, he’s a good kid when he wants to be, but he’s also grown to know better and I just hope that continues the older he gets!

Lastly, we come to my Nephew’s mom who has also transformed a lot from when I met her, she’s kind of hard to explain with her transformation though, but I’ll do my best, when I first started coming around and hanging out with her, she was always working, but she worked from home, so she always tried her best to balance out work and her son and when I was hanging out with her as she was working, I would notice a lot that she was having to do, when it came to her son like I said earlier it was hard for her to put her foot down with him at first, because she didn’t like having to be that….not strict parent, cause she’s really not that strict, but he’d would get babied a lot before, he still does, but it’s not so much from his mom these days, but the grandparents…..you know how that goes!

It was hard for her to tell him when he was doing something wrong and when it came to punishment so that he learns that he can’t do certain things, with work she was always stressing, she dealt with a lot….I guess the only way I can say it is her transformation comes from how she’s grown as a parent from when I met her and what I know her to be now as well as how certain parts of her personality has changed and grown, she’d always wanted to please everyone even when she didn’t want to do whatever it was that she didn’t want to do, she’s showing more of her voice with people,

Which is good and she would always feel like nothing was going her way, but now everything is now working for her which is great, in terms of her son, she’s learn to put her foot down with him more and not let him try and control her and what I love about that is, I feel since then, both her and her son have gotten more closer and it’s a beautiful things to see, because you can tell she loves her son and only wants the best for him and that’s how parent should be and he loves her which is also wonderful! I’ve witness what she had to go through before and I’m so proud of her for how far she’s come even if she doesn’t know it, she’s an amazing mom and an amazing person, as well as a really good friend and I’m glad that I got to know her and continue to get to know her, fun fact, we’ve crossed paths before me and her a few time even, but we never actually encountered one another face to face just always by a pass by, it wasn’t until she started dating my brother to where we finally met, I guess you can call it a small word!

The three people I just spoke about all mean something to me and I’m glad to know them and have them apart of my life, I’m glad that I’ve been able to experience the transformations they’ve gone through, they all have taught me a lot of things as well as important lessons and are still teaching me a lot even if they don’t know it necessarily, but I wouldn’t trade them and all that they’ve taught me for the world and if ever down the line our journey’s together were to take different paths or transform in some kind of way to where I still have them in my life, I’m always going to take what they’ve given me and do my best to make sure I never forget it!

F.Y.I. I didn’t expect to write all of this, the way I did, I just felt very strongly to write this for some reason so I did, call it a moment of a thought in time!!

P.S.

By the way, I’ve switched up my podcast episode schedule just for this week, so instead of Monday, Wednesday and Friday, I’m doing Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday (I’m going to try for Saturday anyway) again just for this week, I just felt like switching things up a a bit! You can check out yesterday’s episode here:

Take Flight Like A Bird…. Ep. 37 Daydreamer's Podcast

Happy Tuesday everyone, hope your having a good day! In todays episode we talk a bit about birds and the way they fly, not just about that though, it gets a bit deeper than that, we're always afraid to explore the unknown and take those big leaps that we've been wanting to take, but isn't that what life's about!? Facing those unsure feelings and seeing where it takes you, just like that Moana song, one day I'll know how far I'll go!!

All The Love ❤ ❤ ❤

Lexa

Zoo Adventures (Giraffe’s, Stingrays and a Dog!?)

Good Evening, hope everyone is doing well, I know in my last post I said I was going to be out a while, but I also said that I would write when I was feeling inspired as well and today I was feeling a bit inspired, now I’m not sure how long this post will be, but I just wanted to share on an experience that I had today, I’m writing this post on Sunday by the way, not sure if I’m going to be posting this right away, but I figured I still write about what I have in mind of sharing!

So I went to a zoo today, not the first time I’ve been to one, but I did do a few new things that I haven’t done before, I went with my friend/sister in law and her 4 year old son (my nephew) and it was a good time, it wasn’t too hot, which was nice after this very long of a heatwave week, it was nice and cool today even though it was pretty cloudy, but it wasn’t that bad, it was good!

I fed a giraffe which was kind of interesting, I’ve never fed a giraffe before so it was a nice experience, I tend to forget just how big giraffe’s are, like I know they’re pretty tall and everything, but when you haven’t seen one for a while you tend to forget just how tall they actually are and being in front of one today, giving it lettuce to eat….it was kind a very cool experience, I liked it! We also saw two males trying to out dominate each other…..one thing I will never understand is why giraffe’s insist on hitting each other with their long necks!? They weren’t going at it too bad, but just seeing them smack each other just to see who was the strongest…..it’s like why, but I guess that’s how it is in the animal world, it’s an odd and sometimes scary thing to see, but luckily it didn’t go too far, they were still small giraffes anyway!

I also got to feed birds for the first time, they were like little parrots or parakeets, I’m not really sure on the bird species, I wasn’t looking at the signs there, but I think they were like parakeets or something, I had one bird just sit on the stick with the bird food on it and just go to town, never had that happened before, but it was nice, we were with the birds for a good while, my nephew was trying to get the birds to come to him eventually he had a few near him, getting to feed them and everything! We went into a butterfly exhibit as well, it was nice, I’ve never been in one before, we also got to feed some goats…they’re very greedy, but also cute in their own way!

We saw some reptiles, monkeys, one monkey was loving the little playground they had and was moving on the obstacle course, he went down the slide, he was just having a great time, it was good to see! Oh get this a dog and a cheetah in the same exhibit!? Not even kidding, we were heading to go where the ponies were, my nephew wanted to ride one and as we were walking, we stopped to see a cheetah taking a nap and I noticed across from the cheetah their was a dog, like an actual Labrador retriever dog…..at first I was a little concern wondering how the dog got in there,

but I soon learned that both the Cheetah and dog were best friends and that they were raised together, plus they were only born a week apart! That’s the most adorable and cutest thing ever, never would I have guessed a dog and cheetah to be best friends and to see them in the same place, it was soo awesome!! We saw some pigs as well, I got to pet a stingray….it was odd and slimy, but pretty nice, stingrays are kind cute I won’t lie, one stingray loved getting petted he kept going around the same place just so people would acknowledge him lol! There was a lot of different animals that we saw while at the zoo, we also went on a little trolley train ride, it was pretty short, but it was mainly for the kids to enjoy so I guess it was okay, my nephew kept calling it Thomas the Train…..

Yeah he’s in that phase where everything train wise is Thomas or the other trains in that show that he knows, he’s a weird and sometimes scary kid, I say that for a reason, but I do love him, he’s a funny one! But yeah, it was good day, got to see a lot of things and experience new stuff too and see cute animals, we didn’t get to see them all, but we saw a good amount which was good!

P.S.

We got to see some turtles too, some were huge then you had the sea turtles, one of my favorite kind of turtles might I add!

All The Love ❤ ❤

Lexa

Honestly….I Want To See You Be Brave (Title May Change)

There comes a moment, well I guess you can say there comes a good amount of moments in life where you have to make some really hard decisions and sometimes those decisions aren’t always the easiest, most times you’ll find that not a lot of people agree with the decisions you make, but whether they agree with them or not, it’s up us to decide what we feel works best for us and if it’s also healthy for us as well! What I mean by that is if you find that you’re in a situation where everyday it’s always issue after issue and no matter how much you try to make it better, it never feels like it gets anywhere, that’s where the really big decision comes in…..you have to ask yourself is this worth the time and energy am I sacrificing too much of my happiness trying to make everyone else happy!?

Sometimes it’s difficult because you feel like with certain situations you don’t have a choice, especially when say it’s family or really close friends or just anyone you feel a great connection with! If you are the kind of person that always puts everyone else’s needs before their own this can be especially difficult and a bit of a battle to get yourself out of, but once you do get out of it, you’ll start to find yourself getting more and more better and you’ll also start to become happier because you’re not having to always please people, you might have moments where you feel slightly guilty, but that’s only due to the fact that you’re used to helping so many people out without a single thought about yourself so it’ll feel a little weird at first of course!

However you have to know when to say no and that it’s okay to say no, as hard as it is, it’s important for your wellbeing, if you’re constantly agreeing to everything that someone says or always saying yes when really you mean no, you don’t give yourself that proper attention that is needed and when you know you have no energy left, yet you still try and give everyone what their asking you for…..it’s just going to be this endless cycle only you’ll be the one without energy while others knowing they have their own energy, continue to take all of yours!

You never want to allow yourself to enter that cycle, but then you ask yourself, how do you know you are in that situation!? Sometimes it all goes based off feeling, so if someone askes you for something or to do something, whatever the question or situation is and inside you feel like it’s not right or maybe you just don’t want to do it in that moment, yet you do it anyway because you’re being asked that’s the first sign of it’s okay to say no when you feel it to be no…..as for situations alone, you have to know which ones are worth putting yourself into and which ones are best to stay out of, it’s not always an easy thing to do, but for the best shield for yourself,

Don’t know how else to state it….it’s important to be aware of and if people choose to scold you for wanting to stay away from all the drama and not wanting to be around them because it’s never a good moment or there’s always something then just a genuine let’s spend time together or conversate and all that jazz, then those are the people you want to keep at a distance, if they can’t respect that then you’re best to just keep to yourself and look towards filling your circle with better surrounding people that you know will keep your energy high and not the other way around, the people who really care will always support you, even if they maybe don’t agree, a good support system will always encourage you to just go out there and do your best and will always want to see you happy!

I express a little more on this topic in my latest podcast episode, it’s a bit lengthy, but I felt it was important and wanted to share on it, if you would like to have a listen, check it out:

Wind Of Change….(Personal Thoughts) Ep. 30 Daydreamer's Podcast

Happy Wednesday! Hope you're enjoying the day…we've reached episode 30….wow! In today's episode, we go a bit personal with it, I had a lot of thoughts that I wanted to share with this episode and it's pretty much based on a situation that I'm dealing with currently! I don't normally share on personal issues, but I felt I wanted and needed to say some stuff and so this episode might be a little heavy topic wise, but I try to keep it a little light as well, without all the extra details so it's not all that bad, just some thoughts…  

All The Love ❤ ❤

Lexa

Thoughts Of July….

Good Evening everyone! Hope your weeks been well so far, it’s Tuesday almost Wednesday and we’re nearing the end of this month….I just came to the realization of that today that we’re in the last week of July! We’ve got one more Summer month to go that is August and right after that we will enter the Autumn season, crazy, crazy, crazy!! I don’t even know what exactly to say when it comes to this month, I mean a lot has happened within this month that was a little unexpected, but it’s been good I feel….I had a new experience and adventure this month and there’s a lot of changes that has either been occurring or in the works if that makes sense!?

Overall though, this month has been surprisingly good, I’d say, but it’s also been on the mixed side as well in terms of pretty good and it’s had it’s days, but other than that….I honestly don’t know what else to say, I probably said a bit of it in my last post and most of my feeling of this month in my latest podcast episode so whatever you don’t see me say here, you’ll either see some of it in my last blog post, well sorry the one before my last one, my July 22nd post or you’ll hear me talk on it in my Podcast episode! I won’t lie, the fact that the month is just coming to an end, feels surprising to me even though, it felt like it was here for sooo long as weird as that sounds…..this year in general, just feels like one day it’s speeding by and the next is just taking it’s sweeet time, not that that’s a bad thing, it’s just how I feel it to be!!

Could be different for everyone else which is most likely the case yano!? buut yeah…..not a lot of thought writing wise for this month, but I do still have thoughts which I shared in some way or form, maybe not in this post, but in my 22nd of July post and my latest podcast episode! I hope you all have been well and I hope that July has been good to you, that you enjoyed it and whatever you had planned for this month or what you didn’t have planned to where it just showed up randomly and unexpectedly…..I hope that it was good and that it made you happy or maybe you learned something new, experienced something new, whatever this month brought you, I just hope that it all went well for you,

Maybe you’re still being patient for it to arrive and when it does, I wish nothing, but the very best for you all and I hope it goes well regardless to how it shows up for you….those are my thoughts of this month, I know it’s probably short, but sometimes short is good, you don’t always have to say so much, but if you want and feel you want to that’s okay, it’s how ever you feel you want to express!!

If you would like to hear more of my thoughts of this month, check out my latest episode, I discuss upon a few different things, but I like to think they all tie in well together, I hope you enjoy it!

Monthly Chat (July Thoughts): Recharges, Changes & Experiences… Ep. 29 Daydreamer's Podcast

Happy Weekend, hope you've been well!! I'm back and with a new episode, in todays episode I talk about a few things on my mind, from how the months been, how it's important to take moments to yourself and recharge and a whole lot of other things as well! It's been an interesting month, full of new experiences, adventure and changes to come…..plus this summer has been pretty darn hot! 

All The Love ❤ ❤

Lexa

Nov 22, 2019……

HWAHT A DAY!! Yes I know that’s not how you spell “what” but that’s how it’s being spelled today, because trust me it fits really well with the day that I had today, I couldn’t even begin to tell you it all, I mean I could, but it’ll be a very long post, I mean if you guys are okay with that then I don’t mind.

No, but seriously today’s just been really something, like I can 100 percent say i’ve never had a day like today, EVER IN MY LIFE!! I’ll brief it for you without telling the whole details of today, even though part of me really wants to, but i’m going to keep it brief this time around, maybe i’ll tell you about it some other time, but for now, it’s just going to be brief.

Let’s just transition over to this morning, it was good, nothing out of the ordinary…….except for one thing, after coming back from getting a little breakfast from across the street to where my mom works, everything was fine when I came back, it was when I went to sit and eat to where the morning became quite interesting, first I just want to say luckily no one was around when this happened, but yeah so i’m about to get ready to eat the food I got and out of nowhere BOOM!!

Something comes crashing down, not knowing what exactly fell, my mom, my aunt, me and this other person went and looked in this back area to where my mom has breaks, so a break room pretty much and everything was intact there, we then all go downstairs, just so you guys aren’t confused, my mom works at a salon, but she works upstairs from the salon where she does nails and the people downstairs work with hair, but yeah that’s that info, we asked them what fell they say it was upstairs we say no,

but something said, check the bathroom, last place we looked, so I go into the bathroom and load and behold, that is where the noise came from, turns out the thing that came crashing down was the mirror in the bathroom……yeah not kidding, it just fell by itself, but again luckily no one was around when it fell, that would’ve been pretty bad if there was, it was quite a big mirror too, not too big, more medium, but still kinda big.

So yeah that was the first thing that happened today, some other stuff went down of course, but the biggest thing was an unexpected situation that occurred that I was not prepared for whatsoever, like at all, it was the weirdest thing to ever happen to me, interesting i’ll add, but I was not ready for all that came about, I didn’t know what to do or say, so I just let it happened the way it arrived to me, so yeah…..today was just quite the day,

Sometimes you never know what you’re going to experience or get throughout the day or days for that matter so you kinda just have to take things as they come no matter how bizarre or out of the norm it is, who knows you might have one of the best stories to tell when that kind of stuff happens and it’ll be one you might tell more than once, so yeah that was the day, it was good, but it was filled with a lot then expected……..

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa