Why Is Simple Complicated!?

We’ve all been there before, we come across a pathway or just something that should be simple and easy, yet we tend to make what should be easy to us 1000 times harder. Why is that!? why is it that we feel that simple just isn’t enough!? why do we feel the need to over complicate things!? These are the questions that we should ask ourselves a little more often. We as humans always feel as though keeping things simple and just simple in general is really hard to keep up with and the thing is……it’s actually not, we just think that it is, because we always feel the need to rationalize everything that we do, say or feel and that’s something we shouldn’t have to do, we get so caught up trying to figure everything out that we forget that we don’t really have to have everything figured out.

Sure there we’ll be things that we have to really sit down, take in and think about, but not everything has to be in that same format, it’s okay to just not over analyze everything, I mean think about it!? When was the last time you dealt with something to where you probably thought “Oh gosh this is gonna stress me out isn’t it!?” but once you came face to face with it, you then realized that it wasn’t as bad as you thought it was gonna be. Think of it this way: You have a workspace right!? you do what you do and let’s be honest here, we’ve all ended up turning our workspace into our personal, “let me just place this thing right here and i’ll get back to it later” place.

Come the next day we then add something new to that workspace and the process then continues, until we have to use that workspace again and then come to the realization that we can’t, because it is filled with a whole lot of unnecessary things. Here we are now stuck having to clear and put back everything that in all honestly could’ve been avoided if we just put them back in their original place the first time. You see where i’m going with this!? The whole workspace scenario could’ve been so simple, had we not continuously added stuff to our workspace, then we would’ve been able to use it when we needed to use it. We have the choice to make things simple for ourselves, but for some unknown reason we don’t, we just feel complicated it the best thing for us when in all reality it just leaves us stressed out, tired and just not wanting to deal with anything.

If we just learn to work on making things a whole lot more easier for ourselves and a whole lot more simple as well, we would find that we end up feeling a whole lot better and less stressed out all the time. I mean why would you want to be stressed all the time!? I know that stress is something that’s gonna happen at times, but if it’s happening all the time that’s when you should really stop and think about everything you’re doing.

When things start to get just a little too complicated, really ask yourself “is it really complicated or am I just making it really complicated!?” If you find yourself having to really think about it, then it might just be you over complicating it. It’s nothing you can’t fix though, you can always make things simple for yourself, all you gotta do is just really look at everything and decide is this really worth stressing over!? If you find that it’s not then just let it go and move on, however if it’s still bothering you a bit, you can always  write it down, come back to it later and when you do come back to it, look it over and see if it still has an effect on you, if it does try looking into why that is and see if you can break it down to where it becomes easier to work through.

Every complicated issue that we have, most of those issues aren’t as complicated as we make it seem, for some it might be, because everyones different, but that doesn’t mean you can’t work through them and make those issues or whatever it is that is making you stress, a little less stress and what’s complicated, simple. Try to make things less stressful for yourself by making everything you do a little more simpler, it might just work and change your life for the better. Everything can be really simple if we just let it.

Anyway that’s all I have for now, i’m gonna sign off a different way today if you don’t mind and say that I hope you all are enjoying your day and are having a good one, with that I hope you all have a goodnight/morning and or evening 🙂

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa~

Clash Between Happiness/Unhappiness

Happiness is a choice and a precious thing to have, if we don’t have happiness then we’re just living in a life to where we’re just trying to get through the day and just having a life to get through the day all the time, isn’t really much of an exciting life to have. We all get unhappy at times it’s just apart of being human, but letting ourselves be unhappy everyday and not trying to find some kind of happiness within the things that we enjoy isn’t good because then we just end up becoming stuck and you never want to be stuck.

The reason i’m talking upon the topic of happiness and unhappiness is because, i’m going through a stage of trying to find happiness within myself again because i’ve realized that I haven’t been all that happy lately and i’m not quite sure why that is, it could be a numerous of different things, i’ve constantly been deep in my emotions and trying to figure them out and by me doing that I find that i’m probably making myself more unhappy with trying to figure them out. I use to be able to make myself happy with the smallest of things and lately that hasn’t been happening, I keep focusing on the the things that i’m not happy about and you should never put your focus on what doesn’t make you happy, even if you’re going through some really difficult times, you should always look for the things that do bring you some kind of happiness even if it’s just for a moment.

We have to remember that we hold our happiness and all of the things that bring us happiness, it doesn’t matter whether we have bad days or hard times happening in our lives, we should always do our best to keep our heads up and focus on what brings us joy and makes us feel good regardless of what is happening. Although that may be easier said then done considering there will be things that do halt us from being happy, we have the choice to either have it continue to stop us from feeling happy or we can just move on and make our own kind of sunshine as that saying goes, the only person that can truly stop us from being happy and doing the best we can each day is ourselves.

They say that we are our longest commitment and that is true, which also means we have the power and choice to choose what we bring into our lives and what we bring in our lives, we have to then decide whether or not it’s good for us and whether it makes us happy or not and that can be a very tough decision because the things that once made us happy can change and believe it or not that can also go for the people in your life, if someone once made you happy, but you find that being around them just isn’t the same anymore then that definitely can be a tough decision to make because, although you know what your doing is gonna be good for you, the people that you choose to either not be around or step away from a bit, it may not make them happy because they will feel because they did so much for you and have always been there for you that they should automatically be apart of your life, which can lead to you being in a tight corner.

Being put in a tight corner can be very overwhelming because now you’ll have to really think about what to keep and what to kinda push away from you that you feel isn’t bringing joy and happiness into your life. Overthinking things though can put you in one of those moods to where you become unhappy especially when your overthinking about how you’re gonna go about everything and I guess for me that’s what has been going on and what’s been keeping me from being happy, because of the fact that i’m constantly  thinking about everything too intensively, when I know I don’t need to, but I find that overthinking is one of those habits of mine that I tend to do a lot and I wish I didn’t.

Just like happiness is a choice so is unhappiness, if you continue to let yourself be unhappy then you’re always gonna be unhappy, especially if your making yourself settle for things that you know you don’t need to settle for. You should never let yourself settle for things because your use to them or because you feel that you deserve it, we’re all human and us humans we make a lot of mistakes, some that we don’t acknowledge upfront which then causes us to put them to the side and by us putting it to the side we then store it to be reviewed for later or we try and forget them as if it never happened.

What we don’t realize though or what we always forget is that our minds are very powerful and with us humans we give a lot of energy to our thoughts, however we give power to the thoughts that don’t really bring us any good and so while we may try and forget the thoughts that we don’t want to remember, those thoughts don’t just go away, they stay with you for a long time if you just try and forget them and not confront them. Now even though we may not be able to forget certain things that happen to where they are now filed into our minds that doesn’t mean we can’t forgive the things that happened, although i’m aware that there are a lot of situations that are hard to forgive because it probably made such an impact on your life to where it ended up leaving you with a mental, emotional or just a scar in general, but I feel that forgiving a situation that happened even though you feel it shouldn’t be forgiven can really help you heal.

Forgiving yourself too is super important especially if you feel that you let yourself down in a way or you feel like you put yourself through so much to where it could’ve been avoided or just because you feel as though you need to, what i’m saying is with the way our minds work and the stuff that we think about, our thoughts are the root to happiness and unhappiness, so if our thoughts are filled with negativity and just everything that isn’t good for us then it’s gonna become our reality and you never want to have your reality be filled with negativity, so always keep in mind that whatever you think be it about yourself or if you are just think about whatever just do your best to make sure it’s in good light, another thing that can effect our happiness is the way we choose to live.

If you know the way you’re living isn’t quite making you happy try changing things up a bit, maybe rearrange your room, get rid of things you don’t really need, you know express your feelings, if you’re unable to express it out loud, try expressing it in a different way like writing for example, writing can help you get your emotions out when you’re unable to out loud or if writing isn’t your thing, maybe art is so try painting or drawing, just anything you feel helps you express yourself. When you change certain habits or things in your life, you can help yourself not only heal and feel better but you’ll also bring a little bit of happiness back into your life as well, even when days are tough.

Remember happiness comes from within ones self and the way one is living, so if one of those things are effecting you in anyway and is preventing you from finding happiness maybe try looking from within or around you and see if there’s anything there you might want to change or get rid of so that way you can be happy once again, but also keep in mind that when you’re running low on happiness try and find something to bring a little bit of that happiness back to you, even if it’s not for a long period of time.

When you do feel that happiness coming through be sure to hold on to it and keep it close by just in case you feel you need it again. Anyway that’s all I have for today I hope you’re all able to take something from todays post and for those who are also struggling to find their happiness at the moment, I hope that you’re able to find something that picks up your mood a bit and brings joy to you in some way, but anyway I hope you all have a goodnight/morning and or evening.

 

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa~

Thought Of The Day #3: Emotions and Expressing Those Emotions

Hey there everyone, I know that I haven’t written much lately and there isn’t really an excuse I can use, because well…….yeah there just isn’t any. I just want to let you know though that I have been writing, there are a lot of unfinished blog posts saved in my drafts and some blog posts that are finished, but I haven’t posted them because I just didn’t feel like they were any good, but if you want i’ll post them. Moving on though, i’m here to talk to you about how i’ve been feeling lately, but i’m not quite sure how to really put it into words so i’ll just try and explain it as best as I can……..just letting you know this may be a very long one so I hope you stick with me……

Right at this very moment i’m as calm as I can keep myself, but earlier I wasn’t as calm as I am right now, in all honesty I was such a mess this morning that I think i’ve literally tired myself out, now I could rest and relax, but I also can’t at the same time, because if I rest anymore, i’m not gonna do anything and we (by we I mean me) can’t keep putting off writing, we started this for a reason and it’s time I actually put this blog to good use and not sabotage it like i’ve been doing, not on purpose of course, I just haven’t been feeling the best, but every time I think about it, shouldn’t that be a reason to write!? That way you’re able to get everything your feeling out……maybe yeah, I always try and bring positive posts though because I want to be able to bring a little happiness into your lives just in case you’re running low on it………but how are you mean’t to bring happiness to others when you yourself aren’t really that happy!? (9/6/18)

I have to always remind myself that you can’t make everyone happy, the only person you should always make sure is happy is yourself and if your not happy then there’s no way to share your happiness with others. I’m just gonna tell you how my morning went if that’s okay with you guys…….so I went for a walk today because I had a whole lot on my mind, I constantly wake up now with something being on my mind, i’m not gonna really express what that thing is because it’s personal, but anyway, so I went for a walk hoping I would be able to clear my mind in some sort of way and gee if that didn’t feel like the longest walk of my life……..I walked to that park that I once told you guys about, I got there and the first place I went was to where that river is, well the entrance way of the trail with the river at the bottom of it, there was someone there fishing just in case you were wondering.

Anyway so I leaned up on the entrance way, looking towards the river, the ground and the trees and I tried so hard to hold in my emotions because I didn’t want to let them out, like literally while I was walking I was holding them in and I guess once I got to the park leaned up on the entrance way of the trail, I couldn’t hold it in anymore even though I tried so hard to………you see when it comes to me, what you don’t know is whenever i’m feeling a certain way, I normally tend to keep it to myself because I don’t like putting my emotions on everyone and if I do talk about how I feel I only talk to certain people about it, so mainly my close friends and my boyfriend, mainly my boyfriend though, you’re probably wonder why not go to your family about your feelings and to answer your question……….that’s hard because even though I shouldn’t feel this way, I just feel like I can’t talk to them about how i’m feeling and that may sound weird but it’s true.

I use to always try to express myself to them when I was younger, but I never could get my words out with them and I just wouldn’t feel comfortable enough to go to them about my feelings, plus I never felt like they would understand me and how my emotions work if that makes sense. So that’s why if I ever felt I needed to go to someone about my feelings I would always go to my close friends about it and then after a while I met my boyfriend of over a year and so I just started telling him about my feelings and I don’t know…….I just always felt I could talk to them and him easily, I mean let’s be real we all have someone where if we needed to speak about something important or just need someone to listen to us for a couple of hours about whatever, we know that they’ll be there and we don’t ever have to think “Okay should I bring this up if i’m feeling this way!? Are they gonna really listen to me though if I talk about it!? or What if i’m just putting too much on them with my thoughts and emotions!? those kinds of questions.

We always try and avoid putting our emotions on people because we feel that we’re just gonna ruin their mood and become a huge burden on them and so that’s why some of us or lot of us just end up keeping our problems and emotions to ourselves, so when we find someone to talk to and really listen to us and I mean really listen……it means a lot because you know in that moment, your feelings matter and that you don’t need to worry about being a burden on someone because they too get it and they know how it feels to want to express yourself, but feeling like you’ll just be a downer if you do, plus they know how much it means when someone’s able to lend a helping hand or in this case ear, especially when you really need it and having that kind of person is the best because they don’t ever make you feel bad about having feelings and wanting to express them in someway, they just let you express it however way you need to express it.

It’s also a bonus when you can talk to someone and they have a whole lot of patience for you, because we’ve all had those moments where sometimes our words don’t catch up with our brains in time or we have what we want to say in our minds, but we just aren’t able to get them out into words right away and even though you’re freaking out inside having a conversation with yourself thinking why you aren’t able to get your words out or about how long you’re taking to express yourself, they aren’t really bothered about it because they probably know how hard it is as well to get everything you’re feeling out right away, so they’ll alway reassure you that everything okay and for you to just take your time and having that kind of person to lean on for emotional support means the world.

Communicating with people nowadays especially about your feelings you don’t really get that too often and if you do everyone expects you to just come out with it as if it’s that easy and for someone like myself, it’s not that easy, I have a problem expressing myself out loud because I never know what to say or how to word everything, whenever I try and speak as everyone always says to me, my words just end up jumbling all over the place and it makes it seem like I don’t know what i’m talking about or i’m not making sense and that can get to me, especially with the way that I am, because not only do I have a problem talking out loud, it doesn’t help with the fact that my anxiety will kick in sometimes when i’m trying to communicate out loud. It also doesn’t help when people know how you are and the way you get when communicating, yet still when they’re talking to you, the way they express themselves is the complete opposite to how you express yourself and so the whole conversation just ends up being not a conversation.

There’s two types of people:

Those who hold in their emotions and try and deal with them calmly, but when expressed they like to take their time to be able to gather their thoughts before they express them.

Those who hold in their emotions, but when they are expressed it ends up just blowing up everywhere and it’s hard to have a proper conversation with them. 

Lastly we have those who just express their emotions right when their feeling them no matter how the conversation turns out, but at least they said what they had to to say, I know I said two, but as I was writing I thought of a 3rd person, so now it’s 3 types of people.

Moving on though, I just feel like I can only express myself with certain people because I feel they get me more and I can just express myself without feeling rushed or as if i’m being a burden to those i’m expressing my feelings to. I also feel you shouldn’t have to explain why it is you’re able to talk to certain people about your true feelings compared to if you were to try and express your feelings to family members, sometimes that’s just how it is and some people may think that you should be able to, but it’s not always that way for some people, some feel a lot more comfortable talking about their feelings to their friends or partner then with a family member, you shouldn’t feel bad or have others make you feel bad about who you express yourself to. If you feel better after expressing your feelings to those who not only make you feel comfortable, but also make it easy for you to approach them, then that’s all that should matter, at least your getting your feelings out and not keeping them to yourself.

Everyone has someone they naturally gravitate towards be it emotionally, mentally or just in general and there’s nothing wrong with that at all. So that’s my thoughts, I hope you don’t mind me sharing this with you guys, i’ve just been really feeling my emotions lately and I always try and sort it myself, but it’s not always easy so I think for now on whenever I have a tensely arising emotion happening, I think i’m gonna write about it because I feel writing helps me really deal with it and it makes me feel a little better as well, anyway I really hope that you guys are able to take something from this and that I helped a bit for those who also have these feelings. I hope you all have a goodnight/morning and or evening.

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa~

 

(Originally Written Sept 6th) 

Decluttering Not Only Your Space But Your Mind As Well………(Shortest Blog Post I’ve Ever Written)

Hey everyone hope you’re all doing well, today I wanted to talk about decluttering, now most people would think that decluttering has to do with only getting rid of what you don’t need in your space, but that isn’t true, I mean it is, but there’s more to declutter than just your space. I actually wrote about this topic in my journal last night before I went to sleep and I thought why not also talk about it here as well, lately i’ve been in the mindset of wanting to get rid of everything that I feel isn’t really doing me any good and is only taking up space in my life, it’s mainly with actual stuff, I have so much stuff that I want to sort through, but I haven’t gotten around to it yet, but I will soon, anyway back to what I was on about.

We all know that decluttering your space can be good for you because then you’ll be able to get rid of all the things that you no longer need and that no longer serve you good, while also making room for new and better things for you, it’ll also give you a much more cleaner space so you won’t have to stress about having too much around you, but the most important thing to declutter once in a while would be your mind. Let’s face it we don’t really take the time to really analyze our thoughts and look through them to see what should stay and what should go. We really should declutter our minds every once in a while though, that way we’re able to get rid of all the things that are only putting us down and really just taking up space in our minds that we really don’t need taken up. When we give ourselves the proper time to clear out the attic that we call our minds, we help give ourselves the chance to clear out the old and not so good thoughts and make room for a fresher mind and a much more positive outlook on things.

Decluttering both your living space and mind can really help you focus on what’s really important and it’ll help you also have a clearer perspective on everything. When you have so much stuff around you and so much going on in your head, it’s gonna be hard to really focus and get your brain in order, which will also make you feel very frustrated and it’ll start to drive you crazy after a while as well, okay maybe not crazy, but having too much stuff and a lot going on in your mind can get very overwhelming, bringing out all of your not so good emotions in the process. So when you get the chance make sure to declutter and get rid of all of the things and thoughts that are taking up too much space, if it doesn’t make you happy and it’s just becoming a burden on you just get rid of it, don’t keep holding on to it especially if it doesn’t do you any good, believe me you’ll feel a lot better, plus again you’ll be able to start off fresh and new and things will just become a lot more simpler to handle and i’m sure we can all agree that having things be a little simpler could do us all a little good, just saying.

Anyway, that’s all I have for today’s blog post, I don’t really have anything else to say here, I know that this ones shorter compared to my other blog posts, but I still hope that you enjoyed it in some way and that you were able to take something from this as well, anyway I hope you all have a goodnight, morning and or evening 🙂

All The Love ❤ ❤

~Lexa~

Originally Written Aug 31st (See you Summer…..Until Next Time)