Letting Go and Moving On…….

I once wrote about these topics in my thought journal before, separately of course although most people talk about these topics together……..I guess because they naturally go together when bringing one of them up, so let’s talk about these topics once again shall we!? First let’s start with moving on it might be backwards, but just stay with me here okay. I was listening to music and the artist I was listening to was Sara Bareilles some of you may know of her, some of you also may not which is fine, but she is a great artist so if your looking for new music, you should check her out who knows you might like her.

Anyway the reason I brought her up is because she has this song called December and it’s one of my favorites from her and there’s a line in that song that goes “To get yourself a new life, you’ve got to give the other one away.” now i’m sure there are a lot ofย  different interpretations for this song, but what I want to talk about is that line because what she is saying is true, if you want to start something new or like she says get yourself a new life, you’ll have to give up the one that you’ve been use to and that means getting out of your comfort zone and embracing new opportunities and just trying something new. Now getting out of what you’re use to is better said then done especially when you’ve been in it for so long……….some people are able to get themselves out of being stuck in the same place and then thrive on opportunity when it comes knocking on their door or when it approaches, which is really great for them because you should be able to do that………then you have others who want to do that, but then let fear, what people think and what they say pretty much stop them from doing what they want, so they don’t and they keep themselves from reaching their full potential which isn’t good.

I know this scenario all too well because i’m living it, i’ll be frank (yeah I know that saying, I also had to look it up just to make sure i’m using the term right and I think I am) but anyway back to what I was talking about. I know what it’s like to want to move on with where you are in your life and do something different, but being scared to or just letting others affect my decision and trying to tell me what they think I should do and then just letting them pretty much convince me when in my heart, I don’t want what they want, no one wants people to tell them what they should do or how they should do it, everyone just wants to do their own thing and that’s okay if you want to do your own thing, sure people can give you advice on certain things, does that mean you should take it no……..you can listen their advice, but if you know what you want out of life why should you listen to what everyone else has to say about it. If you feel in your heart and know that your guy instincts are trying to guide you to where it thinks is best for you why not listen to it!?

We have the power to decide what’s best for us and how we live our lives, how we do things and live our life is our choice no one else’s. Don’t let others stop you from doing the things you want, if you feel like you need a change in your life then do it and do it in the way you feel best and not how everyone else thinks you should do it, sometimes you have to let go of old habits and situations in order to move on to big and greater things and the life that you deserve to have, I know that letting go of the things you’re use to can be scary and all, but if you want to move on and have the life you want then you’re gonna have to let go of the life you have now.

For those who are struggling to let go and move on in their life because of fear or not being sure whether you should or not, I believe in you and I know that you can do anything you put your mind to. If you’re happy with where you are then then good for you keep doing your thing, but if you’re not then work hard to get to where you want to be and do it the way you see fit for yourself, we will get through our breakthrough together somehow, because we’re strong and we have the power to do so.

I hope everything I said here made sense with the topic I was going for. Anyway I hope you all have a lovely night/morning/evening ๐Ÿ™‚

 

All The Love โค โค

~Lexa~

Fighting For Love

You ever wanted someone so much to the point where if you could, you’d fly or teleport to them!? (I mean you can fly somewhere by taking a plane, but i’m talking superpowers here, you probably guessed that) no but in all seriousness, not to be all cheesy or sappy or anything, but it’s like………love is a beautiful thing okay, especially when you know that two people really genuinely love each other, love is also pretty rare nowadays…..we all know how it’s not everyday you find someone who really cares and loves you for who you are, whether you’re weird (in a good way) random or just anything that you would see as “oh who’s gonna want to be with a person like me who constantly freaks out about small things!?” or whatever you find a not so good trait about yourself, you know what I mean!?

It’s like we all have our fair share of things we don’t quite see as a good thing about ourselves, but it takes someone who really cares deeply about you and loves you unconditionally to see pass all of those bad traits we think we have and just accepts our flaws as just being apart of us. There are some people who don’t really understand what it’s like to love someone so much that all you want is for them to be next to you and just be there when you need them or just need that safe place to turn to and that’s because they aren’t going to get it, because it’s hard to find something so real once you’ve got it and when you know that you have it, you don’t ever what to let it go because who knows if you’ll ever find something like that again.

You want to know the best part about being with someone you love deeply!!? That no matter what is going on and how you’re feeling, you know that you can’t fall too hard because they’ll always be there to catch you and keep you from hitting rock bottom completely and not only that, but they’re also your biggest supporters and will be proud of you no matter what you do…….knowing you have someone who is not only your partner in life, but also your best friend as well is the greatest thing in the world, because having that kind of relationship you know that you don’t need to be anybody else but yourself and no matter what you do they’ll always make sure you know how much they love you.

You know you found that person you want to spend your life with when you can just talk about literally anything and it doesn’t feel weird or awkward, it’s just natural and casual and not seen as a big deal which is nice, because you can talk about embarrassing things and just laugh at it, without both of you getting uncomfortable and those kind of conversations that are hard to bring up to someone like a friend or family member even, is natural between two people who care about one another on not only a personal level, but also emotional and mental level as well.

I gotta say though my favorite thing about being with someone you truly love is they won’t let you feel a certain way about yourself, they will do everything they can to make sure that you’re always happy and well and when it comes to dealing with things they won’t let you do it alone, because they want to deal with them along side you and fight all your battles with you because to them…….your fights are their fights and vice versa.

To sum this all up because i’m not sure if any of this made sense or if i’m just gushing about love, but when you find and finally have that special someone in your life who you can be yourself with, without judgement and you know that if you need them they will always be there and just everything that I said already…….hold on to them, because a love like that is really rare nowadays, especially when you’ve connected in all of the ways you’re mean’t to connect with someone who just makes everything feel………..just everything is better when they’re around.

Once you have that kind of love, don’t let it go because if you do, you’ll regret it and you’d wish you hadn’t…….also just a heads up to never let other people try and convince you that what you’re feeling isn’t love or that you don’t know anything about it, because in all reality it doesn’t matter what they think or feel………it’s how you feel and what you feel doesn’t concern everyone else, no ones gonna feel the same feelings as you and that’s okay because they’re not mean’t to, only you know what’s right for you and that’s all that matters. So fight for the love you want and go on and be happy because life is too short to not be fully happy ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Anyway it’s late, 12am to be exact not that, that matters or anything XD I started writing this around 4pm yesterday but I had one of those days again where I didn’t know what to write about and so I went and did other things until something came to me and for some reason, love was the topic that was on my mind, so I hope you guys are able to take something from this blog here, it’s different…..but I think it could be something useful for someone hopefully……….anyway hope you all had a lovely day yesterday and I hope you have one again today depending on what the time is where you guys are…………you all have a goodnight/morning/evening ๐Ÿ™‚

 

All the love โค โค

~Lexa~

 

Edit: i’m now publishing this at 1am, yaaaay XDย 

Finding Your Happy Place…..

You ever wake up feeling a certain way causing your day to start off on the wrong foot of things and then how you feel just starts to mess with everything not only your mood, but just everything you do in general!? yeah I had one of those days today and it really started to take a toll on me to where I started to get agitated with things around me…….now I was going to write all about that feeling I was going through today, but for some reason I couldn’t and my mind became blocked and I sat on my bed for a pretty good while trying to write something, yet I couldn’t……it even took me a bit to even write the title to this haha.

While that was happening, I was listening to music while my dog was sleeping next to me, trying to figure out what to write and even asking my brain and soul (don’t judge sometimes you gotta do that) pretty much asking myself what does it feel…….just so I can put something down. The song that was playing was a Jazz song it was called Point Of Departure by Nelson Rangell, as I was listening to it I couldn’t help but feel at ease a bit to the point where I was smiling and my happy state of mind was coming back to me and in that moment everything I was feeling just melted away………what i’m saying is the Jazz song inspired me to write about finding your happy place because I was trying to find mine earlier and I gotta say that at this very moment I feel pretty alright ๐Ÿ™‚

Now to somehow bring what i’m feeling to you guys wondering how you can find your happy place when feeling on edge, agitated or just anything that is causing you to not form words properly and having you turn into your worst enemy………Here are a fewย  things you can do when you’re not feeling like yourself.

Listen to some music to try and soothe your mind and soul……best thing to do is put on some of your favorite songs, whatever that is, it could be Jazz (that’s always good, no lyrics for you to sing to distract you, just some good ole’ instruments) speaking of instruments maybe you like Classical (Classical is good too, I enjoy it from time to time) it doesn’t have to be Jazz or Classical though, it could be anything that calms you down or just takes your mind off everything for a good while.

Close your eyes for a bit, breathe and focus on your breathing until you feel you’ve calmed down enough……now i’m sure you’ve heard people say all the time if you’re feeling tense or anything just close yours eyes, count to 10 (or a higher number) and breathe and keep doing that until you feel a little better……..well let me tell you believe it or not it does work, but it’s on you to want to stop yourself from getting overly wound up or super agitated. Breathing does work and it does help, sure we breathe all the time, but we don’t really take the time to focus on our breathing when we know we need to……so go and try some breathing techniques and see if it helps you or not, you never know it might just be your new favorite thing.

Try writing down your feelings…….TRUST ME writing down how you feel or just jotting down your thoughts in general really does help. Anytime I have too much on my mind or I just feel I need to get my thoughts out on something, I always grab one of my journals and just lay it on the line and I have a lot of journals but they’re all for different things not just writing down my thoughts. I enjoy writing because it lets me express myself in the ways I wouldn’t be able to out loud, so I know that if I have trouble saying how I feel out loud, I can just write it down to try and make sense of it all and once I do that I feel a little better. I just want to let you know that you don’t have to be an expert at writing, when it comes to writing you can express yourself in anyway you want, from song to your thoughts, even just randomness it doesn’t have to make sense……..as long as you acknowledge your thoughts and put it in front of you, then you won’t have it to where it’s taking up space in your mind. Keeping things in your mind isn’t good so grab a pen or pencil (I always use pencil because…….well I just like writing in pencil) and go to town with your thoughts, it doesn’t hurt to try at least.

There’s a lot of different things you can do to find your happy place, you can read a book, maybe playing video games is your thing, drawing it can be anything really, just find something to keep you at ease.

Those were just a few things that help me when i’m feeling on edge from time to time, but i’m sure you all have your own thing that you turn to when you need to find your happy place and whatever that is to get you back to you, I hope it does work and helps you feel good again, because everyone should feel good and not have to have their brains melt and drive them nuts haha……..anyway that’s all from me, I didn’t realize I was writing so much I just noticed while I was wrapping up this blog that I wrote a lot……..hope I made sense and it helped in someway, I also hope I gave some good suggestions to you guys. If you guys want, maybe you can share with me what you do when you need to find your happy place and who knows maybe I could pick up some new tips from you guys. ^_^

 

All The love โค โค

~Lexa~

Negatives VS Positives

Although i’ve already written about fighting through the negatives and trying your best to stay positive, sometimes it’s better said then done you know………especially when you’re battling negatives all the time, I asked myself earlier how do you stay positive when all your around is negativity!? i’m still figuring that out actually and although I try my hardest to stay as positive as I can it’s so very hard………I just want to be able to feel good again, i’m sure you all have those days where no matter how hard you try and how hard you fight off the negativity you just somehow feel a little defeated too…….I know i’m meant to be positive here and i’ll do my best to turn this around someway, I just really feel this so much……….

Now let’s talk how we’re going to turn this around, so the question is how do you stay so positive when all you are around is negativity!? I don’t know……..I want to say I have all the answers and I wish I could tell you exactly how to stay positive in a wave of negativity, but I don’t even know……..all I know is we have to find and hold on to something that will keep us going and keep us from falling apart completely, just so we can have that bit of hope and faith that will somehow get us through the day and in the end will be worth all the pain and struggles we had to go through………

I don’t know if I turned this around and wrote this in a good light or anything, but what I was trying to get at is that whether you’re struggling in your life right now and you feel like days aren’t getting better or it’s just too hard to go on, please go on and keep pushing yourself somehow to get to where you want to be in life, because all that you’re feeling is only temporary, I know it doesn’t seem that way and you probably heard that from a lot of different people, but giving up and letting yourself be defeated isn’t what you want to do, you should never let negativity win because you’re only giving up on yourself when you do that so PLEASE……..please keep pushing and know that better days will come, sure it’s gonna take a bit of time, but they will……..and if you feel like you can’t push yourself look to those around you to help, I would suggest those who really understand and get you and always makes sure you don’t fall flat on your face. ๐Ÿ™‚

I hope you find your flashlight to guide you through the dark (I was inspired by Jessie J with that line lol XD) All the love โค โค

~Lexa~

What do you do, when your mind constantly keeps you from staying positive?

It’s funny I actually wrote a journal entry on this last night, well the being positive part ha…….anyway the question i’m asking and maybe you are asking as well, what do you do when your mind constantly keeps you from staying positive!? That is the question isn’t it……Well to answer this question, that’s a little hard because I don’t even know half the time what to do when you’re trying your hardest to stay positive, but then end up having to face negative situations. It’s like no matter what you do the negatives always seem to overpower the positive mindset your trying to hold within yourself…..but even when that is, always try your hardest to breakthrough those negatives and keep that positive light you have even if it isn’t a lot.

As long as you have at least that bit of hope, faith, good light and energy for yourself that’s all you need and that’s all you should always focus on, no matter how bad everything is or seems around you always do everything you can to focus on your good light and good energy because that will help you through all of your darkest days even when it doesn’t seem like it. There will always be some days where you have to constantly battle within yourself trying to keep upbeat and positive when all you want to do is just stay within your thoughts and just deal with the negatives, but believe me when I say dealing with the negatives going on in your life isn’t the best thing for you, sure it’s easier to have your mind be clouded by all things bad and everything, but there’s always gonna be something there to help you outweigh the negatives and turn them into positives be it: Watching your favorite youtube channel, reading a book, listening to your favorites songs or even just sharing a laugh with some good and close friends.

No matter what it is that stops you from walking that positive road your trying to walk, you can always count on there being something to distract you from your mind and make you smile and happy again, even if it’s just for a little bit……always remember dark times aren’t always going to be around even though in the moment it seems that way, you will always find something to keep you going and help you through your path in life. Remember to keep in mind that you are stronger than your thoughts, all the difficult times you encounter in your life and just everything that is meant to keep you down.

That’s all I have to say with this one, hope I made sense and hopefully helped someone where they take this and keep it in their minds……….okay well I hope you all have a lovely day and i’m sending those who are going through a tough time at the moment or in general all the love and positive energy you might need ^_^

 

Stay strong, Keep moving forward and All the love to you all โค โค

~Lexa~

The Journey Begins

Thanks for joining me on this new journey of mine, in all honesty I have no idea what i’m doing really, I made this blog just to be able to express myself and write down my thoughts and hopefully turn what I write down into a positive thing so I hope everything I write is good in some way and helps as well…….

Everyone has their journey in life, for some their journey is a little simpler and for others it’s a little more challenging. Whether yours is simple or a bit on the challenging side of town, it doesn’t make you different from others, if that makes sense (I hope so)……..for those who live a simple life, some people would think just because they’re not stressing as much as those going through some tough times in their own life that their life is not as difficult, but everyone goes through tough times even those you wouldn’t expect to.

You see when it comes to life journeys everyone has to walk their own path some get all the hardships and others get some of it, but not very much of it. Life journeys are all about what you take from everything even the battles you go through in your lifetime, but no matter what path your walking be it simple, a little challenging or in between even……always remember to keep your head up, stay focus and just keep moving forward because every journey teaches you something about yourself and everything else around you ๐Ÿ™‚

~Lexa~

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. โ€” Izaak Walton

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